Obaa Yaa
Pressure of childlessness is disturbing me
We have been married over six years but we have not as yet been blessed with the fruit of the womb.
I have become a centre of ridicule by my in-laws from the eldest person to the youngest in the family and there seems to be no end to my plight.
My parents and the entire family have heard the barrage of insults for which some were incensed and demanding that l should quit the marriage in order to have my peace.
In the midst of all these challenges, it is surprising to note that a female relative of my husband is the only person who is against the unjustified attacks on me.
She has been supporting me with words of encouragement and has the firm belief that the situation will be better with time.
Since accusing fingers were pointed at me as the cause of our childlessness, I was compelled to conduct tests at different hospitals and the reports had revealed that there was nothing wrong with me.
Unfortunately, my husband has refused to go to the hospital to undergo any of the tests l had been subjected to.
My fear is that the years are running out and if care is not taken, l may possibly not take seed provided the situation remains the same.
The anger in my parents and relatives could possibly make me leave the marriage. Will l be right if l take this action?
Patience- Accra.
Dear Patience,
I want to believe that you are both eager to have babies just as his relatives are mounting pressure on you to the annoyance of your family.
Modern medical researches and discoveries have made seemingly difficult problems to become easy to deal with, thereby bringing joy to many couples.
Since the tests conducted have proved positive, the next thing you should do as a wife is to compel your husband to go to the hospital for a thorough medical examination to be conducted on him.
You have to convince him that it takes two to make babies, therefore, he should complement your efforts in trying to unravel the problem of childlessness you have as a couple. You should let him understand that only the two of you should work hard in resolving the problem
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
