Obaa Yaa
My baby daddy has abandon me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 25-year old lady expecting my first child. Meanwhile the father of the child says he does not want me anymore and is about to marry another woman.
Anytime I approach this man for money, he insults me and threatens to beat me up.
This man has a good job but has not supported me since he got me pregnant. He has made me so sad and ashamed to the extent that I cannot continue with my life.
I need your help badly.
Joyce,
Korle Bu.
Dear Joyce,
I AM so sorry you are going through this. Being abandoned by your baby’s daddy is painful and can leave you betrayed.
This is a difficult situation but there are steps you can take to protect yourself and your child emotionally, legally and financially.
Kindly get your parents involved in this matter and consult the man’s family.
But if your parents will not intervene because they feel ashamed and angry with you, then see another elderly family member who can give you emotional support and counselling.
This person can see the man’s family on your behalf to remind them of his responsibilities to you.
Always remind yourself that his actions are reflection of him not you. Be strong for your unborn child.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
