Obaa Yaa
I suspect she is cheating on me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
l am 27 years old and my wife is 24. We have been in friendship for six years and things went on well. I sponsored her to undergo a- four- year hair dressing apprenticeship after which l organised a grand party to mark the completion of her training.
When she started working, she was full of gratitude to me for facilitating her apprenticeship training throughout the period. She would close early from work and come to my residence to prepare meals for me.
However, l later discovered that her visits to me were not as frequent as they used to be. When l enquired, she told me that her customers increased daily and that she had a lot of work to do.
Though l was not convinced, l ignored her answer and concluded that l should give her time to change. But the way things are going it is a clear testimony that she has a lover who is taking too much of her time.
Having got the fact that she is having an affair with somebody, l am contemplating telling her to pay the money l have spent on her with interest, else she will be inflicted with a strange disease till she dies.
I think nobody will blame me if l go ahead with my plan.
Kwesi- Mankessim.
Dear Kwesi,
Take it easy and try to forget about the sacrifices and the assistance you have made to make her fully established in life.
You must remember that you have not as yet performed any rites to officially make her become your wife.
I am sure it was not easy raising funds to support her throughout her apprenticeship, yet l would appeal to you to consider all that you have done for her a charitable act which should not attract a reward in return.
I believe you are a Christian and God will not be happy if you cause her to fall sick to serve as punishment for cheating on you.
Obaa Yaa
Let’s protect the girl child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a mother whose children are all girls. I am having sleepless nights over cases of little girls being defiled lately.
I wished to give birth to boys because my parents gave birth to only girls.
I am getting worried with the way the girl child is taken advantage of by unscrupulous men and it appears these men are going unpunished.
What can I do to protect my children? We must begin to see actions geared at saving the girl child.
Araba,
Takoradi.
Dear Araba,
YOU must begin to have very frank talk with your little girls. Tell them about sex, and tell them it is wrong for little girls to engage in it.
Tell them that it is wrong for anyone, most especially strangers, to touch or fondle their private parts and should not hesitate to report such cases.
With the children who are too young to speak properly (below three years), make it a point to bath them yourself either in the morning or evening and observe their private parts to make sure are well.
Do not leave them in the company of boys or men for long periods without checking on them.
Obaa Yaa
My mum wants me to end my relationship
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 26 year old driver, and she is 24 and an apprentice seamstress. We have known each other for three years.
I was having launch when my girl entered with another man but she didn’t see me.
When I asked who the man was, she said he was from her hometown and was invited by him for a drink. I just slapped her and she left.
Obaa, I had seen this man with my girlfriend another night and when I questioned them, he tried to fight.
I slapped him and he went to the police station to report that someone had assaulted him and stolen his necklace, watch and an amount of money.
The matter got to my mother and I was asked to pay Gh¢8,000 for assault.
My mother says, I should break up with the girl but I love her and can’t do that. What should I do?
Efe, Mallam.
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Dear Isaac,
Your girlfriend needs to be talked to instead of slaps. Let her understand that you felt threatened by the man who is not a mutual friend to the two of you.
You must explain to her that even though this man is from her town, she should have introduced him to you and also make an effort not to be with him at places and times that arouse suspicion.
This would be the first part of saving your relationship. The second part is that you need to control your temper as violence would always land you in trouble.
Finally you need to reassure your mother that you would never act the way you did again.
