Obaa Yaa
I am confused in life
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady in my early 30s. I had a child with someone but my parents did not approve our being together.
Three years down the line, I met another guy and I told him everything and he agreed to be with me and promised to marry me and stand by me.
After a year of dating, I got pregnant for him then he went to see my parents and promised them that after I had put to bed, he will come and marry me.
I have lived with him since my pregnancy and have done everything a woman does for her man but he keeps postponing the marriage rites.
Our child is a year and six months old now and he still has not said a word about performing the marriage rites.
We have been together for three years now.
What do I do please? I do not want to make the same mistake I made with my first child.
Sylvia, Amasaman.
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Dear Sylvia,
I want to commend your second boyfriend for staying with you throughout the period of pregnancy.
For a man to accept someone’s child as his own and still love you was a good thing and must be applauded for it.
I would advise you to be calm, take your time and just pray to God.
It can be that your husband-to-be is preparing himself well in terms of finance. You know marriage entails a lot in terms of finances because he needs to prepare for settle bride price and other marital demands for you to become his wife.
Don’t be in a rush for him to marry you now and not have money to take care of the home.
Approach him with a calm tone to know his mind, how things are going with the preparations and why he keeps postponing the dates.
You would not know his mind unless you ask him. Back your issues and problems with prayers and I believe everything would go on well successfully.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
