Obaa Yaa
How I wish I could predict the future
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been through thick and thin since I came across my love before I completed SHS. It was a smooth journey I must confess until I got pregnant with him and his behavior toward me changed.
I went the length and breadth of the world just to make my guy happy but I guess this guy took my leniency for my weakness. Truth be told, he was financially challenged so I decided to help him with the little I had, all this while my parents advised me not to date the guy but I never heeded their advice because I was deeply in love with him. My parents abandoned me after I got pregnant. I finally came to a realization that he was taking advantage of the love I have for him.
After all, the blames, and maltreatment, not to mention but a few I had admission into one of the renowned universities in the country and this guy warned me not to go or else he will break up with me and sack me from his home. I am now back against the wall and don’t know what to do. Should I forfeit going to school so that I can stay with him or go to school and then have no home on vacation since my parents have abandoned me?
Ewurabena, Manfe-Akropong, Eastern Region.
Dear Ewurabena,
It’s unfortunate that your parents have abandoned you, but I am very happy that you are considering to further your education. I advise that you get some elderly people who know your parents and let them lead you to apologise so that they can accept you and help you especially now that you are pregnant, your mother would be of immense help. You should not choose the gentleman over your parents especially when he exhibits such bad character traits. Be firm at this point in your life, go back to your parents, seek education and get your life on a right path.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
