Obaa Yaa
He is seeing another Woman
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years old and married to a 35-year old man. We had a baby boy after three years of marriage. When the baby was two-year old, my husband started cheating on me. I am financially supportive in the family and earn more than him.
Recently he asked me to support him to further his education. After a year in school, he started giving me attitude but I kept it cool. He denied me sex and started coming home late.
I reported his conduct to his parents who later advised him, but he did not listen. I later had a tip off that my husband was flirting with another woman in his class.
He left home for about a year without telling me his whereabout. My problem is the same man who stayed for a year is now pleading that I take him back.
Meanwhile, I have a man who has proposed to marry me. What should I do?
Erica, Kyebi
Dear Erica,
You must be commended for your willingness to support your husband in diverse ways, including helping him to further his education.
It is sad to note that despite your efforts to make the marriage work, he suddenly put up an appalling attitude which is not healthy for a successful marriage.
You did well by reporting him to his parents although he was adamant.
Having multiple partners and going to the extent of denying you sex for a long period of time means he does not respect you. It is obvious he is no longer interested in the marriage.
His plea for acceptance is a camouflage.
Since someone has shown interest in you, why not accept to marry him.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
