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‘Breasts go kill man’
The Breast is part of the human body at the upper front part. It is the tissues overlying the chest muscles. According to www.webmd.com, women’s breasts are made of specialised tissue that produces milk (glandular tissue) as well as fatty tissue.
The amount of fat determines the size of the breast. It is the main source of nutrition for babies. Health experts recommend breast milk for feeding of babies for at least six months after birth due to the wholeness of the meal it provides.
According to the health experts, it contains protein, fats and carbohydrates and minerals which make it the ideal meal for babies.
It is something that engages the focus of most men and if you are a woman who is not substantially endowed, it could really pose a problem for you in getting a life partner. I am sure the ladies are aware and that is why they go to all lengths to increase the size of their breasts.
Some of us who happen to be the only boy among many siblings, we have the privilege of how our sisters as girls growing up, sometimes wear our mother’s brassiers jokingly.
This shows how important they value their breasts even as young children and they grow up desiring substantial increase in the size of their breasts and account for the huge numbers of women who have undergone breast implant all over the world.
However, there is an interesting mystery that needs to be resolved when it comes to men’s attitude towards the breasts of women. Most women who have both male and female children tell of the strong desire of their male babies for breast milk compared with the female babies.
Funnily enough, when they grow to become men, they still are attracted to it, a fact most married women would attest to. What exactly is with women’s breasts that so engage the attention of men is something worth looking into.
I recall a funny story that a junior at the secondary school, who is now a Bishop of a Church in the United Kingdom (UK), told us. According to him, he attended a Christian fellowship meeting at Tema (Ghana) and a funny incident occurred as they were dancing during the praises session.
He told us that, as people were excited and were dancing and jumping, he saw a lady wearing a pink dress which was not very opaque and as she was jumping up and down, her breasts were also following suit and he found himself gazing at them.
A few moments later, he came to himself and suddenly realised that he had been doing what a Christian should not be doing. Such is the attractive power of women’s breast on men, and if you do not discipline your eyes and your emotions it could land you in serious trouble. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’ and that is what happened to a man who now finds himself in deep trouble.
According to a news item shown on one of the popular TV stations, a man is on the run after assaulting his wife in an attempt to kill her. The story has it that the wife confronted the husband after her daughter who is the man’s stepdaughter complained to her mother that her stepfather has been making sexual advances at her.
The girl then was asked about what happened and she related that her stepfather on one occasion, fondled her breasts and sucked them and then warned her that if she tells her mum, he would kill her and she should know that she is the only child of her mum and that he would also kill himself after killing her. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’
A lady shared a story many years ago about a problem a man confided in her so that she could in a nice way convince his wife so that the house help would be sent back to her parents to save him from adultery.
Apparently the young lady considered the man like her father having stayed long with the couple and developed a very cordial relationship between the man and his wife. She ,therefore, did not cover herself well and it did not occur to her that she was causing problems for the man.
The man claimed that on occasions in his presence, the young lady could show her breast to his wife to examine something, say a rash or something on her breast without any sense of shyness.
To her, they were her parents but it was causing the man’s emotions to run riot in his groin and he then decided to do something about the situation to prevent embarrassing himself and destroying his marriage. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’
One of the media stations also showed a documentary concerning the life of prostitutes and a prostitute was interviewed to share her story to enable viewers to have an idea about the harrowing experiences these so-called sex workers go through.
The lady in response to a question as to whether she let the patrons have access to her breasts, said no and that access to her breasts attracted extra fee. The journalist doing the interview then asked whether the patrons were willing to pay and she said yes and that a lot of them paid the extra to get access to her breasts. It definitely ‘go kill man’.
Not to sound sacrilegious, I am 100 per cent sure that a lot of the pastors both junior and seniors, if they will tell the truth, will confess that they are very much excited at the sight of pointed breasts of their spouses.
I think that, that is the reason some women cut short the six month recommended period for breast feeding babies to prevent their breasts from sagging. Again, I suspect it is one of the reasons some indisciplined pastors engage in fornication because they are easily tempted when doing spiritual deliverance and part of the ladies breasts undergoing deliverance become exposed.
If you are a Christian and you do not want your pastor to fall to temptation, then please pray seriously for them and advise the ‘Asafo Maame” also not to deny access of her boobs to your pastor, because “breasts go kill man’.
By Laud Kissi-Mensah
The writer is a social commentator
In the pursuit of nurturing healthy, fulfilling relationships, we often focus on understanding our partners, communicating effectively, and navigating conflicts. However, a crucial element is frequently overlooked: self-awareness.
Understanding ourselves is the foundation upon which successful relationships are built. Imagine being in a relationship where every conversation feels like a minefield, and every disagreement leaves you wondering if you are truly understood.
Now, picture a relationship where you feel seen, heard, and valued—not because your partner has magically figured you out, but because you have taken the time to understand yourself. This is the transformative power of self-awareness in relationships.
What is Self-Awareness?
Self-awareness is the ability to recognize and understand our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It is the capacity to reflect on ourselves, acknowledging our strengths and weaknesses, and taking responsibility for our actions. With self-awareness, we are better equipped to manage our emotions, respond to situations more thoughtfully, and make informed decisions that align with our values.
How Self-Awareness Impacts Relationships
- Improved Communication:
When we are aware of our own emotions and needs, we can communicate them more effectively to our partner, reducing misunderstandings and conflicts. By recognising our tendency to become defensive in certain situations, we can take a step back, breathe, and respond more constructively. - Increased Empathy:
Self-awareness allows us to recognise and manage our own biases, enabling us to be more empathetic and understanding towards our partner’s perspective. By acknowledging our own emotional triggers, we can respond to our partner’s needs with more compassion. - Healthier Boundaries:
By understanding our own needs and limits, we can establish and maintain healthy boundaries, preventing codependency and resentment. Self-awareness helps us communicate our boundaries clearly and respectfully, fostering mutual respect in relationships. - Personal Growth:
Self-awareness fosters personal growth, enabling us to work on our flaws and become a better partner, friend, and individual. As we develop self-awareness, we become more resilient, adaptable, and better equipped to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and purpose.
Cultivating Self-Awareness
- Mindfulness and Reflection:
Regular mindfulness practices and self-reflection can help you develop a deeper understanding of yourself. Schedule time for reflection, whether through journaling, meditating, or simply taking a quiet walk in nature. - Journaling:
Writing down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences can provide valuable insights into your motivations and behaviors. Reflect on your journal entries to identify patterns, gain clarity, and develop a greater understanding of yourself. - Seek Feedback:
Ask trusted friends, family, or a therapist at Counselor Prince & Associates Consult (CPAC) for feedback on your strengths and areas for improvement. Be open to constructive criticism and use it as an opportunity for growth and self-awareness. - Embrace Imperfection:
Recognise that nobody is perfect, and it is okay to make mistakes. This mindset allows you to approach self-awareness with kindness and compassion, fostering a more positive and growth-oriented relationship with yourself.
As we cultivate self-awareness, we embark on a journey of growth, discovery, and transformation. By understanding ourselves, we can build stronger, more resilient relationships, and live a more authentic, meaningful life. Self-awareness is not a destination; it is a continuous process of learning, growing, and evolving—and one that requires patience, kindness, and compassion towards ourselves and others.
In conclusion, self-awareness is the cornerstone of healthy, fulfilling relationships. By understanding ourselves, we can communicate more effectively, empathise with our partner, and cultivate personal growth. As we strive to build stronger relationships, let us prioritise self-awareness, embracing our true selves, and loving ourselves for who we are. By doing so, we will become better partners, friends, and individuals—capable of building more profound, lasting connections with others, and living a life that truly reflects our values and aspirations.
To be continued …
By Counselor Prince Offei
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ONE profession which society has battled with is prostitution. Prostitutes can’t be stopped in their tracks. Soldiers have tried, policemen have doubled and redoubled to keep them off the streets. But the prostitute is like the cockroach. Sack it from the kitchen and it moves to the toilet where it can enjoy self-contained facilities. Drive it away from there and it scurries to the bedroom to become the landlord.
Prostitutes can live on land and sea. They are mysterious and defy gravity, a feat—even birds of the air have not successfully accomplished. They can change form and appear as bar girls; they dress like students; act like scholars and speak Oxford English. They are also like the chameleon but once their clients can identify them, no problem. The Sikaman prostitute normally enters the business as an amateur, having been introduced by a professional or a caricature of a pimp. But she learns quickly.
In a short time, she is able to take any size without wailing, unless of course the size is “international”.
Prostitutes are of every tribe, height, weight, colour and notoriety. These days, some are well-schooled with diplomas and degrees. They enter into the world’s oldest profession due to factors ranging from poverty to nymphomania.
Most prostitutes in Sikaman are often not sophisticated in outlook and modus operandi. Often, they easily betray themselves with their gaudy appearance, over-painted faces, skimpy skirts, cigarette in hand, walking with that kind of bottom-wriggling gait that can instantly turn a devoted clergyman into a he-goat.
In developed countries like Spain, prostitution takes different forms. Apart from those you can grab from the cheap bars and ghettos for single night stands and those managed by shameless pimps, there are some who are organised by well-established syndicates and specialised agencies.
If you need a girl for the night, you only have to telephone an agency, describing the kind and breed you want—race, height, size, colour (chocolate?), rudeness, smoking type, strip-teasing, shyness, whatever.
You give your address and the girl on time. You pay by the hour and cost per hour can make you feel dizzy without falling down. You’ll still be steady for the showdown.
The girls have been trained to use tricks and communication skills to make their clients spend several hours without really doing anything. A typical prostitute will make you drink, chat at length (they are very knowledgeable), cook for you, bathe you and breast-feed you. That takes some three hours and you have to pay if you still want her services.
If you grow a bit wiser and protest, and insist vehemently that you are tired of being babied and want some real action now, she’ll do another hour of strip-tease and belly-dance by which time you’re either bored or charged to bursting point.
And finally you will do it but never without a condom. And the kind of condom she’ll give you can’t be torn by any knife around the globe, not even okapi. Before you’re finally through, you’ve got some five-hour helluva bill to pay. Next time round, you’ll think twice and go in for the cheap-side who’ll even allow you to do it without condoms if you are tired of living and want to die of AIDS.
In Sikaman, apart from those who operate from hotels and bars, some operate in private homes. The clients come and line-up, each with a hard-on. When the queue is not moving fast some begin to sweat because they have a very low sexual boiling point. If they are not ushered in quickly they can cause problems.
They’ll start grunting and stamping and can disrupt the peaceful and orderly procedure. As it were, such clients need priority attention so that they do not cause a riot and disturb the public peace.
Incidentally, prostitutes don’t like dealing with such clients because they are bad business. They have no biblical patience at all. They rush too much, and that was why a prostitute once asked a client whether he was a Russian because he rushed a bit too much and messed up things.
Prostitution in Sikaman has taken a new turn. Girls as little as sixteen are selling their bodies sometimes with the passive connivance of their mothers. When the girls go out at 9.00 p.m. and return at 3.00 a.m, their mothers let them in without asking questions. Next day, the house is properly fed from the proceeds of the night adventure and everybody is happy and nobody talks. If you talk, no breakfast for you tomorrow morning.
The police are doing quite a job trying to get them off the streets but they go and return just like the cockroach. Many of them are surely agents for the transmission of the AIDS virus because they permit clients to forgo the condom. They only have to pay extra for the “raw” service.
Now, the idea of legalising prostitution has been a very controversial one. If prostitutes can hardly be gotten off the streets since they are defiant and are now very many, why not legalise the profession, issue licences (not to kids), offer them health services and health education, teach them how to protect themselves and others from sexually transmitted diseases and then compel them to pay tax?
That would force children out of the trade because the legal operators will themselves force out the kids who will be competing with them. They would even assist the police to kick out the 15 and 16 year olds.
If a bad phenomenon cannot be wiped out, a way must be found to make it less and less harmless, so that while it doesn’t benefit society in any grand way, it does not also harm it.
Any suggestions?
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