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A chance for Ghana women
God made man and woman, He gave man extra strength in recognition of his title as head of the family. When God appoints you, he empowers you. So man was empowered so that in any event of a domestic brawl, he would not be found with a cracked jaw.
The extra strength God gave to man was not to be used to enslave his wife, but to ensure discipline if she became rebellious, disloyal and revolutionary. This implies that, it is in the nature of a wife to overthrow her husband and declare herself head of family, especially when the husband loses his job.
The power accorded man is, however, meant to be exercised not abused. In some cases, men over-exercise their strength to quell domestic riots and their wives end up with an extra eye, half a nose and several teeth missing in action.
The man will justify his excessive application of force to the nature of her wife’s rebellion, the weight of her insults, the rapidity of her curses and the riotous nature of her emotions.
After a few days in hospital, the wife might decide to return to her marital home, loving her dear husband even more.
And she’ll tell her furious mother that it was all her fault. Her husband should not be blamed, because it was in her own interest that she was thrashed, and veritably so. The love between a wife and a husband can sometimes transcend into the boundaries of stupidity!
KUNG FU
In Chinaland, the men don’t have a field day. The woman comes into marriage with a Blackbelt in Kung Fu (9th Dan). She can somersault and flip over ten times in 15 seconds in the small kitchen. So where does the man’s power lie? In his waist?
When a fight breaks out and the man isn’t as skilled in karate or taekwando, he’ll sure end up with a dislocated jaw and a crooked face.
He’ll not be able to tell his friends that he endured a good beating from his wife. What he’ll do is to go for further training so that come the next domestic tournament, he could give a good account of himself to earn the respect of his in-laws. A man who is beaten by his wife cannot earn even a dog’s respect!
Now, God also created the vine, so that sinful man can cultivate grapes and produce wine to gladden his heart. If man doesn’t gladden his heart, he would be too hard on his family. When he doesn’t drink, he goes about finding fault with everything. And before you’re aware he’s slapping his wife left, right and centre!
God understands man better than man understands himself and it was not for any other reason that God created the vine, other than to gladden that heart of man. Unfortunately, the average man goes beyond gladdening his heart. He wants to booze his head off; to booze his eyes blind.
When alcohol goes past gladdening the heart, it becomes a mocker. A drunken man can cause mayhem. So God decided that those whose lives were dedicated to him should never touch alcohol, lest they denigrated His image. Those became the Nazirites!
PERMISSION
God, in His own wisdom, extended the authority of man in the home to the church. So according to the Bible (not according to Kwame Alomele) women are not permitted to be pastors.
Fortunately, the Bible doesn’t debar women from becoming rulers of nations. So a woman can be a second-in-command in her home, but the chief executive of a nation. When she gets home from her office she must salute the husband. The President must prepare her husband’s morning coffee and bring it to him with a slight bow. No presidential pretentions about it!
In parts of Africa, women rarely aspire to become presidents due to the cultural dominance of men over women. So for decades, African nations did not have female presidents until Ellen Sirleaf-Johnson decided to take up the challenge against soccer legend George Weah.
Now, with history having been made with Sirleaf-Johnson as Africa’s first lady president, the question being asked is whether this is not the much-awaited floodgate for the advent of women presidents in African nations.
South Africa has a woman vice-president, a novelty in that part of Africa. In Ghana, the clarion call has been offered for women not to sit on the fence but to participate in politics, society, wherever they find themselves.
Today, we have more lady members of parliament than we ever had. So the time has probably come for Ghana to welcome her first woman president 2028, and why not?
Who says we don’t have women. I can mention at least one who readily comes to mind. Her name is Hawa Yakubu.
We have other academia and business, well-groomed, highly intelligent, who take up the challenge once.
Some people actually want women to lead because of pacifist nature, their avers violence and their milk of kindness. All over, the women who ruled made a Golda Meir ruled Israel, Indira Gandhi – India: Agatha.
Barbara -Malta, Corazon Aquino- Philippines, Chamorro- Nicaragua, Mary Robinson -Ireland, Chandrika Kumaratunga- Sri Lanka, Mary Mc Aleese – Ireland, ( incumbent), Vaira Vike – Freiberga (Lativa), Tarja Halonen – Finland, Gloria Arroyo -Philipines, and Margaret Thatcher- Great Britain.
Hawa Yakubu, a very intelligent and experienced politician and those in her class motivated by Sirleaf- Johnson’s achievement and brace up to it. This will also bring in a lot of excitement into Ghana politics which has so far been dominated by men.
This article was first published on Saturday, December 3, 2005
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Tears of Ghanaman, home and abroad
The typical native of Sikaman is by nature a hospitable creature, a social animal with a big heart, a soul full of the milk of earthly goodness, and a spirit too loving for its own comfort.
Ghanaman hosts a foreign pal and he spends a fortune to make him very happy and comfortable-good food, clean booze, excellent accommodation and a woman for the night.
Sometimes the pal leaves without saying a “thank you but Ghanaman is not offended. He’d host another idiot even more splendidly. His nature is warm, his spirit benevolent. That is the typical Ghanaian and no wonder that many African-Americans say, “If you haven’t visited Ghana. Then you’ve not come to Africa.
You can even enter the country without a passport and a visa and you’ll be welcomed with a pot of palm wine.
If Ghanaman wants to go abroad, especially to an European country or the United States, it is often after an ordeal.
He has to doze in a queue at dawn at the embassy for days and if he is lucky to get through to being interviewed, he is confronted by someone who claims he or she has the power of discerning truth from lie.
In short Ghanaman must undergo a lie-detector test and has to answer questions that are either nonsensical or have no relevance to the trip at hand. When Joseph Kwame Korkorti wanted a visa to an European country, the attache studied Korkorti’s nose for a while and pronounced judgment.
“The way I see you, you won’t return to Ghana if I allow you to go. Korkorti nearly dislocated her jaw; Kwasiasem akwaakwa. In any case what had Korkorti’s nose got to do with the trip?
If Ghanaman, after several attempts, manages to get the visa and lands in the whiteman’s land, he is seen as another monkey uptown, a new arrival of a degenerate ape coming to invade civilized society. He is sneered at, mocked at and avoided like a plague. Some landlords abroad will not hire their rooms to blacks because they feel their presence in itself is bad business.
When a Sikaman publisher landed overseas and was riding in a public bus, an urchin who had the impudence and notoriety of a dead cockroach told his colleagues he was sure the black man had a tail which he was hiding in his pair of trousers. He didn’t end there. He said he was in fact going to pull out the tail for everyone to see.
True to his word he went and put his hand into the backside of the bewildered publisher, intent on grabbing his imaginary tail and pulling it out. It took a lot of patience on the part of the publisher to avert murder. He practically pinned the white miscreant on the floor by the neck and only let go when others intervene. Next time too…
The way we treat our foreign guests in comparison with the way they treat us is polar contrasting-two disparate extremes, one totally incomparable to the other. They hound us for immigration papers, deport us for overstaying and skinheads either target homes to perpetrate mayhem or attack black immigrants to gratify their racial madness
When these same people come here we accept them even more hospitably than our own kin. They enter without visas, overstay, impregnate our women and run away.
About half of foreigners in this country do not have valid resident permits and was not a bother until recently when fire was put under the buttocks of the Immigration Service
In fact, until recently I never knew Sikaman had an Immigration Service. The problem is that although their staff look resplendent in their green outfit, you never really see them anywhere. You’d think they are hidden from the public eye.
The first time I saw a group of them walking somewhere, I nearly mistook them for some sixth-form going to the library. Their ladies are pretty though.
So after all, Sikaman has an Immigration Service which I hear is now alert 24 hours a day tracking down illegal aliens and making sure they bound the exit via Kotoka International. A pat on their shoulder.
I am glad the Interior Ministry has also realised that the country has been too slack about who goes out or comes into Sikaman.
Now the Ministry has warned foreigners not to take the country’s commitment to its obligations under the various conditions as a sign of weakness or a source for the abuse of her hospitality.
“Ghana will not tolerate any such abuse,” Nii Okaija Adamafio, the Interior Minister said, baring his teeth and twitching his little moustache. He was inaugurating the Ghana Refugee and Immigration Service Boards.
He said some foreigners come in as tourists, investors, consultants, skilled workers or refugees. Others come as ‘charlatans, adventurers or plain criminals. “
Yes, there are many criminals among them. Our courts have tried a good number of them for fraud and misconduct.
It is time we welcome only those who would come and invest or tour and go back peacefully and not those whose criminal intentions are well-hidden but get exposed in due course of time.
This article was first published on Saturday March 14, 1998
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Decisions have consequences
In this world, it is always important to recognise that every action or decision taken, has consequences.
It can result in something good or bad, depending on the quality of the decision, that is, the factors that were taken into account in the decision making.
The problem with a bad decision is that, in some instances, there is no opportunity to correct the result even though you have regretted the decision, which resulted in the unpleasant outcome.
This is what a friend of mine refers to as having regretted an unregretable regret. After church last Sunday, I was watching a programme on TV and a young lady was sharing with the host, how a bad decision she took, had affected her life immensely and adversely.
She narrated how she met a Caucasian and she got married to him. The white man arranged for her to join him after the marriage and processes were initiated for her to join her husband in UK. It took a while for the requisite documentation to be procured and during this period, she took a decision that has haunted her till date.
According to her narration, she met a man, a Ghanaian, who she started dating, even though she was a married woman.
After a while her documents were ready and so she left to join her husband abroad without breaking off the unholy relationship with the man from Ghana.
After she got to UK, this man from Ghana, kept pressuring her to leave the white man and return to him in Ghana. The white man at some point became a bit suspicious and asked about who she has been talking on the phone with for long spells, and she lied to him that it was her cousin.
Then comes the shocker. After the man from Ghana had sweet talked her continuously for a while, she decided to leave her husband and return to Ghana after only three weeks abroad.
She said, she asked the guy to swear to her that he would take care of both her and her mother and the guy swore to take good care of her and her mother as well as rent a 3-bedroom flat for her. She then took the decision to leave her husband and return to Ghana.
She told her mum that she was returning to Ghana to marry the guy in Ghana. According to her, her mother vigorously disagreed with her decision and wept.
She further added that her mum told her brother and they told her that they were going to tell her husband about her intentions.
According to her, she threatened that if they called her husband to inform him, then she would commit suicide, an idea given to her by the boyfriend in Ghana.
Her mum and brother afraid of what she might do, agreed not to tell her husband. She then told her husband that she was returning to Ghana to attend her Grandmother’s funeral.
The husband could not understand why she wanted to go back to Ghana after only three weeks stay so she had to lie that in their tradition, grandchildren are required to be present when the grandmother dies and is to be buried.
She returned to Ghana; the flat turns into a chamber and hall accommodation, the promise to take care of her mother does not materialise and generally she ends up furnishing the accommodation herself. All the promises given her by her boyfriend, turned out to be just mere words.
A phone the husband gave her, she left behind in UK out of guilty conscience knowing she was never coming back to UK.
Through that phone and social media, the husband found out about his boyfriend and that was the end of her marriage.
Meanwhile, things have gone awry here in Ghana and she had regretted and at a point in her narration, was trying desperately to hold back tears. Decisions indeed have consequences.
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