Obaa Yaa
She says she is high-class
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 25-year-old boy in one of the best universities in Ghana. I met a sweet, loving and kind girlfriend on campus who I love and cherish so much.
Unfortunately, she has started exhibiting a ‘high-class’ lady lifestyle on campus which has become a major concern to me.
She is always buying expensive clothes and accessories, and I have no idea about the source of the money.
I am also aware she can’t raise that money because she does not work and she’s not from a rich family either.
In fact, because of her background, I sometimes help her out with her school fees so I keep wondering where she gets that money to maintain her ‘high- class’ status.
I have confronted her about it severally and we always end up having a terrible argument.
I fear she is keeping ‘Sugar daddies’, though she keeps denying it each time I ask her about the source of the money.
She once claimed she earns the money from her holiday jobs.
Please help me solve this problem.
Gideon, Tamale.
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Dear Gideon,
Your girlfriend is an intriguing character. She may be telling the truth about getting the money from her holiday jobs.
Meanwhile, if you feel she is not telling you the whole truth and you suspect there may be more to it, you can talk to her calmly and educate her on the need to save some money.
You can let her know that the way she is spending the money is not the best and that, she was wasting the money on frivolous things.
As for having ‘Sugar daddies’, it is automatic that she might keep one if her friends on campus have some.
The best thing to do is for you to maintain a level head and do not let the situation affect your academic performance. If all efforts prove abortive, which is possible, break up with her, put your energy into your studies and focus on a brighter future.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
