Obaa Yaa
Is my girlfriend real?
Dear Obaa Yaa
I am 30 years of age, dating a girl of 26 years for two years now. She is a banker and I am a pharmacist.
Our relationship used to be a long distance one because of the nature of our jobs till I came back home to settle.
I went through her phone the first time to see how she was managing her life while I was away. Surprisingly, I didn’t see a single chat history on her phone with any other friend except me.
I checked for the second time and the third time and saw nothing of that sort.
Is it normal for a girl not to chat with anybody except her boyfriend?
James, Gbawe
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Dear James,
From my perspective, your girlfriend should be s a commended for her faithfulness to you.
I would strongly advise you to cherish your relationship with her.
Instead of harbouring doubts about this, you should rather praise her because it is not easy to find genuine good and kind-hearted person like her. They are very rare species.
Holding on to a relationship with such a ‘good girl’ is an opportunity to rather appreciate rather than having thoughts you can hardly find evidence to substantiate.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
