Obaa Yaa
Our reunion is lovely
Dear ObaaYaa,
Our lovely relationship which almost resulted in marriage ended abruptly because my lady became suspicious of my movements.
Though she visited me occasionally at home, it was quite embarrassing since all activities were given different interpretations and I became miserable and sometimes confused about the next step to take.
The situation degenerated since we had petty quarrels, frequent problems and there were occasions we would not talk to each other for weeks.
Unknown to us, our house owner, an elderly woman with five children who was very fond of me, later advised that we should separate for a couple of months and our problem would be solved.
Staying in the same compound house with her, she studied the two of us from a distance and used her rich experience to diagnose our problem.
I wrote to your column with this problem and you advised that we should keep our cool for time would heal our differences and things would be well.
We went apart as suggested and I was surprised that the period of separation rather brought out the best in the two of us to enrich our union which has now blossomed.
Kwame, Kasoa.
Dear Kwame,
Trials and temptations generally go to confirm one’s strength in life. The ability to emerge victorious after going through challenges keeps one stronger than ever and that is what you have been able to achieve.
Thank God that you have settled your differences amicably, no trace of suspicion and things are fine between the two of you.
Though the good counsel of the old woman has worked to perfection, the two of you must be commended for ensuring that peace has prevailed eventually.
Promote what will keep the relationship growing and guard against negative acts which are likely to mar your future marriage.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
