Obaa Yaa
I feel guilty of breaking-up
Dear ObaaYaa,
We got to know each other after having stayed on the same flat with our brothers for a couple of years while we schooled. We exchanged greetings on the few occasions that we met and with time we developed the liking for each other.
At school, we had time to exchange letters and enjoyed the friendship that existed between us. It became obvious to residents on the flat that we were close and were always found together whenever the opportunity was available.
Though l am the humble and quiet person, she was very pretty, more quiet, respectful, shy and would not like to look in your face.
Very much aware of our backgrounds and for the reason that we would like to benefit from our studies and make it in life, we settled on the point to abstain from sex till we married.
After some years, lpestered her for sex on several occasions and since she refused to comply, l later took a girlfriend. This girl got pregnant only two months of our friendship, and since then, l have never known peace.
There were occasions that she insulted me in public to confirm what people told me after she had become pregnant that she was quarrelsome and troublesome.
Having gone through these problems, l have realised that l had made a serious mistake.
Is it possible to pacify my former girlfriend?
Kwame-Tema.
Dear Kwame,
It is good to note that you have admitted your fault and to what extent impatience has caused you to miss out on a pretty lady with a good character.
This will teach you that patience pays and there is the need to take many things into consideration before you take a major decision in life.
The possibility of convincing your former girlfriend to come back to you is slim, because you have a child with another person and it is not clear whether she will forgive you or she is married to somebody else.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
