Obaa Yaa
I am tired of his lies and empty promises
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship over five years and l am beginning to entertain fears that my lover is deceiving me with unfulfilled promises.
I feel disappointed anytime l remember my past life, especially when l disobeyed my parents and made them to become the laughing stock in the community.
My boyfriend persuaded me to stop school, leave the comfort of my parents’ home, l defied the orders of my parents and foolishly followed him.
Unfortunately, l am now struggling to get my daily bread and things are not going on well with me.
We have aborted two pregnancies and l am entertaining fears that l will be pregnant pretty soon and would be compelled to abort another pregnancy with the excuse that “l am not ready to father a child”.
I am tired of his lies and empty promises and making me a laughing stock in the community.
Though l love him, l have decided to forget about him and return to my parents to plead for forgiveness.
Will my parents take me back?
Alice, Accra.
Dear Alice,
Defying the orders of your parents in the first instance was not good because you have disobeyed the orders of God.
I can envisage how your parents will feel being let down by someone they had spent their love, resources, time and energy looking after from childhood till you became of age.
Your defiance could be likened to a stab in the back and they must have been disappointed in you.
Repeated abortions could block your chances of becoming pregnant, especially at a time you may need a child. Therefore, the earlier you leave your boyfriend, the better it will serve your interest and safeguard your future.
It will be in your interest to go back to your parents like the prodigal son in the Bible and plead for mercy.
I have the belief that they will welcome you back.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
