Obaa Yaa
Should l abort or what?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a final-year student in one of the universities in the country but unfortunately I am pregnant. Though we love each other and have planned to abstain from sex to enable us to complete our studies and have a memorable marriage in the future, we could not resist the temptation and the unfortunate has happened.
My greatest challenge is that our parents are poor and will find it difficult to support me through the period of pregnancy and weaning my child.
Secondly, the pregnancy is likely to prevent me from completing my studies on schedule. What should l do to save the situation?
Ama-Cape Coast
Dear Ama,
At your level, you knew the consequences of sex before you indulged in it. However, thank God that in a tertiary institution you cannot be expelled from school, as it is the case at the junior level.
Though poverty has emerged as your greatest challenge, you can still manage the situation and complete your studies.
It will not be easy but you must gather the courage to maintain the pregnancy. This could be the only child in your life and the probability of this man getting married to another person because you have turned barren is great.
You have no idea what this child would be and this could be a test for you, therefore, brace up and take the challenge.
Greetings
Ms Victoria Alando of the 37 Military Hospital. September 26 was your birthday and irrespective of the challenges of this world, God has been gracious and blessed you with another year. May God be glorified in your life and may you receive grace upon grace and may your heart’s desire be granted. Belated happy birthday.
From: Priscilla Juanita Yogtiba, your daughter, family and friends.
The Woman Seduced Me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old student who lost both parents at the age of 16.
I stayed with my late mother’s friend, a woman about 40 years old who lives in the same area.
After the death of my parents, she told me to come and stay with her. She promised to take good care of me because of the good relationship she had with my mother.
I moved from my former house to the woman’s place. In fact, she was kind to me and gave me all that I needed.
About three months later, the woman forced me to have sex with her. Since then, she has been making advances toward me and I am uncomfortable.
Obaa Yaa, how can an innocent boy like me escape from this trap?
Ramsey, Kasoa New Market.
Dear Ramsey,
YOU are indeed in trouble. If a woman who has assumed the position of a mother in your life has seduced you, then it is virtually equivalent to incest.
I suggest you begin to think about leaving the place.
Where are your relatives? Can’t any of them offer you a place, especially since both parents are late?
That should have been your first step instead of moving in with a friend.
Meanwhile, be on your guard and avoid being caught in any compromising situation with her now that you know what she is capable of.
Ask God for protection as you search for a new home. Commit your entire situation to prayer.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM 18 years old and she is also 18 years.
We have been lovers for the past two years.
I have a friend who knew about our relationship. This best friend of mine came home from school with his friend with the intention of giving him a girlfriend from his hometown.
This best friend of mine introduced my girlfriend to him and when I returned from school I was told about this sad issue.
I asked the girl and she replied negatively for several times. I was then advised by my friend to stop asking her about it.
For the second time my friend came with the same boy, but this time, I was there and in fact I really saw what happened and it was too horrifying.
Obaa Yaa, I made my mind to fight both boys but I later changed my mind.
She is very supportive and assists me with some of my needs in school.
What should I do, Obaa Yaa? She has still been visiting me but I’m worried.
O. D. Kennedy, Koforidua-E/R
Dear Kennedy,
I DOUBT if the person you claim to be your best friend is indeed a friend at all.
Why didn’t you confront him about this?
In any case, you don’t have to worry about her being snatched because it appears she loves you.
The only problem is that you are being over-anxious about the situation and feeling jealous.
For the time being, if you claim the boy trying to give out your girl is your best friend, then confront him and ask him to stop being treacherous — but don’t fight him.
