Obaa Yaa
She keeps talking about her religion
Dear Obaa Yaa,
She is a Christian and l am a Muslim. l love her but there seems to be no chance for me to marry her.
This is because I have spoken to her about the love l have developed for her but she keeps talking about our religious differences.
In this 21st Century, l believe religion should not be a stumbling block in one’s desire to marry.
What should l do?
Yussif – Tamale.
Dear Yussif,
People are witnesses to successful marriages between adherents of different religions, specifically between Christians and Muslims.
In all instances, the couples put in their best to ensure that their marriages become successful no matter the challenges.
There are situations in life when certain signals help one to determine the end from the beginning. In this case, the lady has indicated that religious differences will not permit a successful marriage between the two of you.
Though you are willing to marry her, the signals are enough that this will not be possible.
It is better to settle on a Christian lady who professes the same faith as you do to marry.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have just found out that the woman I want to marry was raped about two months ago but she told me nothing about it.
It was a cousin of mine who lives in her area who told me about it. When I asked her about it, she broke down and said it was true but she was afraid I would leave her.
But Obaa Yaa, I feel very hurt by what she has done and we are no longer on talking terms.
I want to hold on with the marriage, so I have even stopped going for marriage counselling. Can I trust a woman who would hide such a thing from me?
Kersi,
Osu.
Dear Kersi,
Rape is a very traumatic thing for women and most of them remain silent over the matter and do not go to the police because of the shame and humiliation.
They also get stigmatised by society.
It is an outright violation of a person’s privacy and dignity. What your girlfriend need now is your love and support.
Most often, women get raped through no fault of theirs but dread to tell their partners for fear of being rejected because they have been touched by another man.
I suggest you go back to your marriage counselors and discuss this problem with them.
They should be able to counsel the two of you through this crises.
I believe when you get over this, it will strengthen your love and support for each other and better prepare you for other issues that may arise in your marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am very angry with my landlord. He impregnated my niece and when I took the matter up, he has asked us to leave his house.
He has refused to pay for her upkeep and I have also refused to pay for the rest of the rent for the last year of my agreement with him.
I do not intend leaving my current accommodation. My landlord has threatened to kill me. My wife is also putting pressure on me that we should leave. What should I do?
A.B,
Bogoso.
Dear A.B
If your landlord has impregnated your niece then he must be made to bear the financial responsibility that comes with it.
Seek legal advice on how he should care for your niece and at the same time work out an accommodation arrangement since your agreement with him has not yet expired.
I hope your landlord would reason with you and make it possible for you to stay there. However, if he does not, you will need to report his threat of death to the police and begin to look for alternative accommodation.
But whether the accommodation issue is sorted or not, your landlord must take care of that pregnancy and child to be born even if it means taking him to court.
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