Obaa Yaa
She has broken my heart
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I met this beautiful lady in 2021 at a crusade in Accra. Coincidentally, we stayed at the same place during the crusade as we listened to the word of God, prayed, and danced to gospel tunes from different artistes.
Having stayed at the same place throughout the night, it became obvious when l requested for her contact before we finally parted company at dawn to our respective homes.
I called her in the evening and that opened the floodgates of constant interactions between us. We sustained this lovely relationship until we agreed to get married.
This decision was welcomed by our parents and friends, all of whom wished us the best in our proposed marriage.
Unfortunately, as the time for our marriage drew closer, her attitude toward me changed and she made up her mind not to pick my calls any longer.
Shocked by this sudden change in her behaviour, l momentarily became disturbed and could not eat for days.
My mother who realised there was something wrong, consoled me with these words, “when one door is closed, another is opened.”
This revived my spirit and l tried to forget about this sad incident.
What should l do?
Thomas- Koforidua.
Dear Thomas,
Every misfortune comes with blessings provided one is patient to listen and follow events that happen in life.
God could be delivering you from a serious problem in the future so you should not be disturbed by the sudden change of events.
Take your time to study situations carefully and be of good cheer since there are better days ahead, provided you wait for God’s direction.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
