Obaa Yaa
My boss wants me to wear short skirt
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.
My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.
My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.
He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.
Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.
Please advise me.
Emefa,
Sogakope.
Dear Emefa,
Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.
Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.
You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.
However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.
Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.
By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.
He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.
I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.
Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.
Paulina,
Dodowa.
Dear Paulina,
THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.
That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.
And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.
However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.
Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in a relationship with a man I love very much but he upsets me a lot with his bossy attitude.
He also expects me to come to his house to clean-up, wash and iron for him regularly.
When I fail to do so, sometimes he threatens to break-up with me, saying I am lazy.
The idea of marrying this man frightens me sometimes, or am I the one giving out wrong signals?
Abi, Dansoman.
Dear Abi,
ATTITUDES in a relationship are often set unconsciously before a couple marry. Greetings.
In marriages one tries to adjust and stop living the pretense, he or she disappoints the other partner, thus causing problems.
Your man must understand that marriage or a premarital relationship only works well on a foundation of mutual respect and partnership.
He, therefore, should show gratitude when you do him the favour of cleaning up for him. He has no right to throw a tantrum when you don’t, especially when he has not even married you.
What is really disturbing is the fact that he gives you the options to be a ‘good servant’ or lose him.
A relationship is not a ‘master and servant’ affair. You would be better off losing him than being in a relationship where your partner or spouse regards you only as a servant.
