Obaa Yaa

Marry her to solve the problem

Published

1 year ago

August 24, 2024

Dear Obaa Yaa,

WE have known each other since 2018 when she was 16 and I was 19. We have been so close since last year.

When I asked her about her past relationship, she told me she was with a boy who was the same age as she is and the boy was a womaniser, and also he was not serious with the relationship.

She also told me that she never quarreled with the boy and thus, it was distance that kept them apart.

The boy stays in Accra and she stays in Kumasi. Even though she has promised to marry me, my instincts tells me that they still communicate.

I also live in Accra and what is the guarantee that she won’t go back to this boy if he comes back to woo and reconnect with her again?

I love her so much and I don’t want to end this relationship.

Obaa Yaa, my problem now is how do I convince her to stop communicating with the boy in order to be assured that she is mine?

Yaw Manu

Accra south.

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Dear Yaw Manu,

I HAVE a feeling you really love your girlfriend, and indeed you don’t want to lose her.

I personally believe that in order to know your fate about this relationship, you must have a heart to heart talk with your girl about this issues. And if you are bent on marrying her why don’t you go ahead?

In 2018, she was 16 and you were 19. You two are matured now so my advice to you is to marry her if you don’t want anybody to tamper with her.

This is because once she is unmarried, anything can really happen.

Obaa Yaa

I am Torn Between Two Guys

Published

6 days ago

October 11, 2025

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Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.

I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.

Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.

Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.

—Esinam, Legon

Dear Esinam,

When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.

Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?

You might also reflect on:

Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?

Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.

Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.

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Obaa Yaa

My grades are dropping

Published

6 days ago

October 11, 2025

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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.

It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.

The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.

This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.

This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.

Chelsea, Accra.

Dear Chelsea,

Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.

Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.

Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.

Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.

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