Obaa Yaa
He demands l abort pregnancy
Dear ObaaYaa,
We first met at a funeral and fell in love with each other. During the period, he made a lot of promises including his willingness to marry me no matter the obstacles.
I had a miscarriage which nearly caused my life but through the mercy of God, my life has been spared.
Exactly one year after this incident, l got pregnant again but he is demanding l abort the pregnancy because he is not prepared to look after a family. He had told me not to inform my parents that l was pregnant. His insistence that l should abort the pregnancy has resulted in a misunderstanding between us. He has stopped paying me visits and would not call to find out how l am doing. He asked me not to tell my parents that l was pregnant but after three months,my fear is that they will get to know very soon.
I am worried and devastated. What should l do?
Francisca, Accra.
Dear Francisca,
You are not the first person to complain about this and will definitely not be the last. This problem occurs in most relationships and lovers should be aware that so long as they indulge in sex, pregnancy will take place. Since he has called for the tune, he must be prepared to dance according to the music.
Though you have not indicated how old you are, l suggest you disclose this news to your parents. Your parents will be enraged about your behaviour, they must know this so that they can advise you and provide you the needed support.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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