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Early mistakes in relationships that should be avoided
The early stages is a relationship is usually the most fun and rosy part, as everyone is excited about being in love and feeling loved by someone else.
Putting your personal life on hold
During the early days of a relationship, a lot of plans are shelved by both parties so as to bring the compromise needed to coexist. But regardless of the plans and compromise, you should never put your life’s plan on hold. This can lead to frustration for you in the long run.
Moving too fast
You start to feel all excited and want to fast-track some things like wedding plans, meeting his friends etc. If you force your partner to rush some things, you are setting yourself up for eventual failure.
Ignoring red flags
If you notice some things about your new partner, draw his attention to it and let the person know you are not comfortable with that. Don’t ever ignore red flags or hope that they would eventually change.
Bringing old habits to new relationships
There is never a perfect human being in the world, so if you think it is only you that should be loved with your flaws then you are yet to grow into an adult. If your previous relationship ended because you are a spendthrift, then is it reasonable to bring that same habit to the new one?
Not being your true self
If you earn GH¢1,000 a month, please spend your money in the best way you deem fit. You don’t need to impress her so that she will stay with you. If she does not love you and your honest earnings, then what are you doing with her after all? Be calm and remain your true self?
Trying to impress everyone
Because you do not want your guy or lady to be vexed, instead of you saying no to a certain request, you jumped and said yes. You are setting yourself for an eventual failure in the relationship.
Making up excuses
If you see your partner misbehaving, you don’t have to make up an excuse for their behaviour. Tell them they are wrong and let them know your side of the issue. And if they don’t, please find a way out. A bad partner from the start can only go worse.
There are other pointers that an early relationship faces, but do not ignore the above points.
Muslims across the country celebrated this year’s Eid-ul-Adha in a colourful and spiritually uplifting atmosphere under the theme, “A Season of Sacrifice, Solidarity and Spiritual Renewal.”
The celebration brought together Muslims from diverse backgrounds in a remarkable display of faith, unity and cultural heritage.
The occasion was marked by special Eid prayers at various designated grounds, the slaughtering of rams in homes for sharing among family members, friends and the less privileged, as well as musical concerts and recreational activities including horse riding.
Leading the celebration was the Chief Imam, Dr Sheikh Osman Sharubutu.
While the national celebration was held at the Black Star Square where President John Dramani Mahama was the Special Guest of Honour, similar gatherings took place at different centres across the capital and other regions of the country.
A visit by The Spectator to some celebration grounds revealed Muslims, both young and old, elegantly dressed in colourful jalabiya and other Islamic attire, reflecting the rich culture and traditions of the Muslim community.
The celebration also portrayed the spirit of religious tolerance and peaceful coexistence in the country, as a number of Christians joined their Muslim counterparts to mark the occasion.
Muslim leaders and government officials used the opportunity to call on the faithful to uphold the teachings of the Holy Quran, renew their spiritual commitment and refrain from acts capable of undermining the peace, unity and security of the nation.
They further urged Ghanaians to continue to live in harmony and support one another for national development.
By Linda Abrefi Wadie
Dear Obaa Yaa,
During Eid-ul- Adha celebration, I decided to spend the weekend at my boyfriend’s place since we were planning towards our marriage.
To my surprise, what keeps me wide awake, restless and frustrated every single time is that he snores loudly like a generator running on full power, and I genuinely cannot get any rest
At a point, I thought it was just a normal thing, but I have realised it is something he does with ease and doesn’t see anything wrong with it.
When he steps out in the morning, I try to get enough sleep because I may not sleep in the evening.
The most annoying thing is that, he always wants to cuddle me. These two things are a no for me and a red flag.
We are about to get married, what should I do?
Enam, Keta.
Dear Enam,
The snoring and constant cuddling are frustrating, but you don’t have to choose between sleep and closeness.
Start with the snoring: check if it’s worse when he sleeps on his back, cut out alcohol before bed, try nasal strips or a humidifier, and see a doctor if he pauses while breathing.
For quick relief, foam earplugs or noise-cancelling headphones help a lot.
Separate blankets, a bigger bed, or sleeping apart on some nights often makes couples rest well and feel closer overall.
Bring this up before the wedding .Tell him you want to wake up next to him for years to come, but sleep deprivation makes you both miserable.
Test earplugs and side-sleeping this weekend, and if it’s still unbearable, bring in a doctor. Good sleep matters more for your marriage than staying glued together all night.
