Obaa Yaa
My mother in-law works at the mortuary
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 29-year-old man who works in a reputable organisation. I intend to marry my longtime girlfriend this year.
She has been through thick and thin with me and I love her so much.
During our conversation, she told me that her mother works at the mortuary.
I didn’t believe her earlier, only for her mother to tell me that she has been doing that job for the past 16 years and it is very lucrative.
I don’t believe I can proceed with the marriage. How can my in-law be working at the mortuary.
Alfred, Bogosu.
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Dear Alfred,
I strongly recommend that you marry your long-time girlfriend, considering the shared experiences you’ve weathered together.
The occupation of your mother-in-law as a mortuary attendant should not be a determining factor in you have decision to marry.
Focus on the exceptional qualities you see in your part ner that led you to propose to her. Embrace the connection you share and move forward with confidence in building a life together, independent of external factors.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
