Obaa Yaa
My wife feeds me with her sugar daddy’s money
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am married to a beautiful young lady who is really very industrious. I lost my job recently and this woman has been taking care of me.
However, my friends keep telling me that she has a sugar daddy who gives her money.
I am inclined to believe this because the kind of money she brings home is far more than her pay as a typist.
The taught of this is even killing me softly. I don’t want to investigate this allegation because I am afraid of what I may see.
I love her so much. What should I do?
Nene,Odumase.
Dear Nene
You must act like a man. A man who loves his wife cannot allow another man to have her no matter their circumstance. The fact that you have lost your job doesn’t mean you should sell your dignity and integrity.
Be bold and confront your wife about the stories you are hearing about this sugar daddy stuff. You better stop her and the money she has been bringing home for your upkeep, or else she might also be bringing it for your obituary.
Investigate the stories and take steps to stop her from this adulterous behaviour on her part.
Make sure you get a job and be the man you are supposed to be.
My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.
Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.
I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?
Kwesi,
Suhum
Dear Kwesi,
Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.
You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.
If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.
Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.
Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Before we got married five years ago, my husband told me that his former wife left him shortly after he lost his job following a financial scandal which rocked the company.
But thanks be to God that the court cleared him and ordered the company to pay him for the five years he stayed at home for wrongful dismissal.
As soon as this ex-wife heard that the company had complied with the court’s orders and paid him, she shamelessly declared that she was making a comeback and has vowed to kick me out of my matrimonial home at all cost.
She promised to hire ‘machomen’ to throw my things out of the house and was prepared to bear the consequence for that action.
Even though my husband has assured me that this would never happen, her ex is bent on disturbing my peace.
What should I do?
Adzo,
Tafo.
Dear Bertha,
The lady is threatening to use violence against you. That’s constitutes a breach of the law and she must be reported to the police for issuing those threats.
However, I will advise you to discuss it with your husband so that you are not seen as acting entirely on your own.
As a matter of fact, it is only the police that can handle this matter professionally and must be involved, unless of course your husband talks to his ex-wife to stop harassing you. So have a good discussion with your husband about the matter. All the best.
