Obaa Yaa
My sister is pregnant for a married man
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My younger sister, 26, is two months pregnant for a married man. The man is rich and responsible and can take care of my sister and the child but he is, at the same time, a close family friend who our parents respect so much.
My confused sister has told me she wants to keep the pregnancy but the man wants her to abort it. I am equally disturbed because our parents must not discover that my sister is pregnant for our family friend else hell would break loose.
Again, the married man responsible for the pregnancy says his family will fall apart if the truth is told. My sister has sought my advice on this but I do not know what to tell her. Please help me to advise her.
Mavis,
Dodowa.
Dear Mavis,
This appears to be tough but it can be resolved amicably. But first of all, abortion should not be an option. An innocent soul has nothing to do with an illicit affair between two adults. Your sister should keep the baby and gather the courage to tell your parents what has happened.
There would be initial resentment from your parents but this it would eventually fade away. The married man is only finding an excuse to make your sister abort the baby but she must not allow that to happen.
The ‘family friend’ should be ready to face the consequences of his actions. Perhaps he may convince his wife to allow him marry your sister as a second woman.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.
Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.
By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.
He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.
I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.
Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.
Paulina,
Dodowa.
Dear Paulina,
THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.
That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.
And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.
However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.
Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.
My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.
My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.
He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.
Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.
Please advise me.
Emefa,
Sogakope.
Dear Emefa,
Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.
Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.
You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.
However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.
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