Obaa Yaa
My mother is against my family
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM a 30-year-old lady, married to a very humble, God fearing and hardworking man.
During our dating days, my husband was in the good books of my mother. In fact, he was her ‘sweet heart’. They could sit down and chat for long hours.
He was always showering her with money, gifts and goodies.
However, my husband lost his job a few months after marriage and I am the one assisting our home financially.
My mother’s attitude has changed because my husband doesn’t shower her with gifts any longer.
I personally told her we were struggling financially and we needed her support as well.
She came for a visit last week and started complaining bitterly about how old I have become because I am in a bad marriage.
I quickly threw her bags out and told her not to come to my house again.
Did I do the right thing by sacking her?
Oye, Kwabenya.
Dear Oye,
YOUR case is very dicey and since your mother is involved, I want to be very careful with my choice of words.
I understand what you are going through at the moment but kindly control your emotions when you are angry.
Throwing her out of the house was a big no and I urge you to apologize to her.
You can report her to your father to speak to her.
Try as much as possible to support your home with the little you have until your husband bounces back.
Continue to pray for him and encourage him to continue to apply for jobs.
I strongly believe with God all things are possible.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.
I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.
Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.
Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.
—Esinam, Legon
Dear Esinam,
When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.
Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?
You might also reflect on:
- Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
- Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
- Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
- Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?
Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.
Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.
It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.
The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.
This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.
This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.
Chelsea, Accra.
Dear Chelsea,
Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.
Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.
Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.
Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.
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