Obaa Yaa
My conscience is killing me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I gave birth five months ago and lost the baby. My husband is eager to make a new baby with me.
I personally lost interest in anything my husband does to me.
I don’t want him to make love to me because I am always not in the mood.
I am also mourning my baby because I have lost hope and it seems my husband is not cooperating with me.
I give him excuses anytime he comes close to me.
How do I get this feeling out of my head?
Anonymous,
Mamprobi.
Dear Anonymous,
I am truly sorry to hear what you’re going through. Please know that you are not alone and with time, everything will be fine.
I believe it’s important to open up to your husband about how you feel.
He may not even be aware of the emotional or physical changes you’re experiencing until you express them.
Communication is key in any relationship, especially in marriages.
Remember, intimacy should be mutual and based on consent. It’s something that involves both partners.
Your husband should also be your closest friend. Withholding your feelings or continually giving excuses may make him feel distant or rejected.
This can lead to misunderstandings or even temptations that can strain your marriage.
To avoid this, I encourage you to have a very honest and calm conversation with him.
You may also consider speaking with a professional counsellor or doctor who can guide you both toward a healthier and more fulfilling intimate life.
Above all, take your concerns to God in prayer before speaking to anyone else.
May God be with you and bless your marriage with healing and a deeper connection.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
