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Kaka and piopio
Six strong men raped her but the 16-year-old girl pleaded with her mother not to report the matter to the police. The distressed mum will not listen to that nonsense. She dashed straight to the police station and reported the case.
The police invited the poor girl to give a statement, following which a man-hunt for the culprits would begin. The girl surprisingly started laughing at the policemen. She asked them to forget about the case.
“We want to jail the criminals,” the Inspector said, pleading with the girl to give her statement. “They won’t get anything less than ten years.”
“I enjoyed it,” she finally said curtly to the Inspector who opened his mouth in utter surprise and disbelief. Maybe he didn’t hear well.
“What exactly did you say?”
“I said I enjoyed the game!”
The Inspector now stared at her, gaping in wonder. Was he dreaming?
“You are virtually asking us to close the case? This is a criminal offence!” he said pleadingly. “Forget about the case. After all, I enjoyed it.”
PLEASURE
When the girl’s mother heard her daughter’s admission of pleasure instead of pain, she nearly collapsed. She couldn’t believe that her daughter could say she enjoyed it when six men took turns to ravage and tear her apart. There might be something wrong with her.
In the Inspector’s fifteen-year experience in the service, he had never encountered a case as intriguing as this. Well, if the girl said she enjoyed the three-hour session, then technically the case was closed. Whoever charged someone in court for giving pleasure to another? If there should be anything at all, the rapists should be congratulated on a good job done. Docket closed!
But the docket did not close on the girl’s sexual adventures and misadventures. She was asked to go and live with her auntie and her husband. It was there that she proved she enjoyed the gang-rape. And if she did, then her auntie’s husband was in big trouble.
This girl tempted the 45-year-old man in so many ways until he fell from grace. His wife caught him too doing something to the girl in the bathroom. She was not exactly a witness to what took place when the shower was on for 45 minutes. But the fact that it was her loving husband who was enjoying the shower with her niece offered a vivid imagery of what transpired.
It did not need anyone to do a video coverage of the bathroom event to find the two guilty of taboo. But before anybody could offer rituals to cleanse them, the girl now 18 disappeared and reappeared in Accra. She promptly got married to a prosperous young businessman.
The man was visibly excited. The girl was fair-coloured, sexy and beautiful and he thought he was blessed with such a dazzling Madonna.
“This is God-sent,” he openly admitted to his friends.
Two months later, he came back home to find his loving wife frantically sucking the huge phallus of his close friend. The sight nearly made him develop stroke. The friend started pleading for forgiveness.
“She begged me to have sex with her,” he said.
The marriage ended and the girl was distraught. She loved the man but something within her would just not keep her from seeking pleasure extra-time. Oh! What exactly was wrong.
CATECHIST
She ended up in a charismatic church. She realised she needed deliverance and sought divine help. “I’m suffering from kakapiopio!” she told the resident pastor. He had never heard of such a disease and asked the catechist to find out exactly what was happening to the young woman.
Before the catechist could diagnose the disease, the girl stripped him of his clothes and stooped before him. Her buttocks were presented full-plate and the man of God could not resist the temptation. The quality of the girl’s body required that the Bible be put aside for a while. Later on, he could sort out matters with God.
The girl nearly tore the church apart because she also put the choir-master to the test and nearly brought down a few deacons. She now headed for the pastor himself. | If it had not been for God’s intervention, this girl would have made the pastor crawl on all fours legs like Nebuchadnezzar.
After leaving the church in disgrace, the girl (now woman) got married and delivered two children in quick succession, She decided to settle down to family life. The husband, fat plumpy man soon began to slim down. It was not as a result of HIV/ AIDS. The woman just would not allow him to sleep.
SHOWDOWN
He was forced to fulfil his marital obligations before sleeping, again around midnight and finally and most auspiciously at dawn. The dawn showdown was normally quite hectic and by morning the man was virtually a wreck, a раthetic shadow of himself.
After four-years on the sex job, the man decided to proceed on pension. He could not perform his nightly duties without collapsing. And his wife would not stop forcing him to go and go. She was insatiable.
All his energy was sapped; divorce was the only option if he was to save his life. Moreover, he had heard from the grapevine that the woman was also servicing a good number of people in the neighbourhood.
What was most annoying was that she was doing so for free. At least if she were bringing some money home, her misconduct would have been justified on financial grounds. He quit the marriage.
A few years after that, this sex-machine of a lady got down with a deadly disease.’ That was when she told her story, still not knowing that she was afflicted with a disease called “nymphomania”. It is a psychological condition. Nymphomania is the uncontrollable desire to have sex. If you have it see Dr. Asare!
Conflict at work is more common than you might think. According to 2022 research by The Myers-Briggs Company, more than a third of the workforce reports dealing with conflict often, very often, or all the time in the workplace. The same report found that managers spend an average of four hours per week dealing with conflict, and nearly 25 per cent of people think their managers handle conflict poorly or very poorly.
Addressing a dispute might feel tense or awkward, but resolving the conflict is typically well worth it in the long run. Whether you’re trying to mediate conflict between colleagues or are directly involved, here are seven steps you can take to manage workplace conflict.
1. Don’t put it off
Facing conflict head-on is hard. However, waiting too long to address it can negatively impact your emotional well-being, focus, and the entire office environment. If you’re feeling angry, letting that emotion fester can also escalate it over time. This can make you less responsive to other points of view and make it harder to resolve the issue.
The sooner you can address the conflict, the better it will be for you, the person you disagree with, and your entire team.
2. Learn all you can about the problem
It’s important to determine the type of conflict you’re dealing with. Begin by considering the cause of the conflict. For example, ask yourself whether someone said something that upset you or if you have emotions of anger and resentment that stemmed from something that happened.
Then try to identify if it’s a task, relationship, value, or team conflict. Once you know what type of conflict it is, you can work to resolve it with specific tactics for that situation.
If you skip this step, you may waste time or escalate the situation further by trying to address issues irrelevant to the real conflict.
3. Actively listen
Listen attentively when people share their side of the story. Active listening is one of the most valuable professional skills you can possess. This type of listening involves not only hearing what the other person is saying but also listening to understand their point of view.
No matter your role in conflict, it’s easy to begin sharing your opinion with little regard for the other people involved. However, it’s important to learn about all sides of a disagreement to make well-informed decisions before drawing conclusions.
To reach a resolution, you must step back and prioritize listening over talking. Ultimately, that will encourage the other person to do the same when it’s your turn to speak. –source: betterup.com
Today, I focus on the Temple Of Praise Ministries International (TOP Church) in Helsinki, as I continue my description of personalities or institutions and their accomplishments as members of the Ghanaian Diaspora in Finland.
The TOP Church in Finland has seen significant strides and accomplishments that must be made known to the public. 
Some history
The Church was established in Finland in September 2016. Since its inception, it has steadily grown both spiritually and numerically, by the grace of God, as disclosed to me by Mr Matthew Anini Twumasi, the Presiding Elder of TOP’s branch in Finland. The TOP Church has other branches across Africa, Europe, and America.
The Church in Finland was founded with a vision to create a welcoming and dynamic community where people could experience God’s love and grace (see, www.topchurchfinland.org). According to Presiding Elder Matthew, the TOP Church operates within a unique environment where Christianity coexists with what is seen as a largely secular society.
Despite this, he submits, there are significant opportunities for outreach, unity, and demonstrating the love of Christ through service and community engagement.
Activities
Church services at the TOP Church are typically held on Sundays for the main worship. In addition, there are mid-week prayer sessions, Saturday prayer services, and a half-night service held on the last Friday of every month. “We also organise quarterly programs”, Elder Matthew added.
His impression of the Church so far has been positive. “It is a vibrant and welcoming community where members are committed to worship, fellowship, and supporting one another in faith”, he stated.
In sum, Elder Matthew said the Church continues to grow by God’s grace. “We remain hopeful and committed to spreading the Gospel, strengthening the faith of our members, and making a positive impact in society”, he continued.
Achievements
The TOP Church has a number of achievements and achievements. Some of the strengths include strong community bonds, cultural diversity, and deep commitment to spiritual growth.
I also remember that during the COVID-19 period, I heard that the TOP Church was one such bodies that hugely supported its members and others to cope with the situation.
According to Elder Matthew, the challenges facing the church include “adapting to cultural differences, engaging the younger generation, expanding outreach in a secular society, and securing a permanent place of worship”.
Role in the Ghanaian community in Finland
The TOP Church plays a prominent role as a religious group that serves Ghanaian migrants and others in the Finnish society.
Thus, the TOP Church is a religious body for Ghanaian migrants in Finland and other nationalities who want to worship with them for diversity and better intercultural and multicultural understanding.
The Church also has mechanisms in place to support its members who are bereaved as a way to commiserate with them in times of death and funerals.
The Ghanaian community has played a vital role in the growth of the Church. Their strong sense of fellowship, dedication to worship, and active participation have helped build a solid foundation and attract others to the ministry, according to Elder Matthew.
Integration
By its activities, the TOP Church is helping to ensure integration of its members well into the Finish society.
This is important since social interaction and citizens’ well-being are an important part of the integration process.
The role of migrant associations and groups such as TOP Church acting as bridge-builders for the integration and inclusion of migrants through participation in the decision making process and by acting as a representative voice is highly appreciated in Finland. Thank you!
GHANA MATTERS column appears fortnightly. Written in simple, layman’s terms, it concentrates on matters about Ghana and beyond. It focuses on everyday life issues relating to the social, cultural, economic, religious, political, health, sports, youth, gender, etc. It strives to remind us all that Ghana comes first. The column also takes a candid look at the meanings and repercussions of our actions, especially those things we take for granted or even ignore. There are key Ghanaian values we should uphold rather than disregard with impunity. We should not overlook the obvious. We need to search for the hidden or deeply embedded values and try to project them.
With Dr Perpetual Crentsil
