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I am afraid of getting married

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 I am afraid of getting married the third child of my par­ents, a graduate and 27 years old. Though I am working and have the means to cater for a family of my own, I am afraid of getting married because my two elderly brothers are suffering from broken marriages.

Their weddings were good in the beginning but could not go beyond four years.

The traumatic experience one of them had nearly resulted in a serious health problem.

This predicament is putting fears in me not to marry. Unfor­tunately, most of my colleagues have married and developing their families but I am at a standstill.

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For this reason l would like to remain single to free myself from this problem. Despite my decision, I am waiting for your advice to help guide my deci­sion.

Kwame, Tema.

Dear Kwame,

Though it is good to study current developments in your family to guide your future, we have different opportunities, circumstances and challenges in life that people go through. Things happen for different reasons and each person is dif­ferent.

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It was a coincidence that your brothers had this problem, and this should not put fears into you.

The circumstances under which your brothers operated will definitely be different from yours so have a changed mind­set, remain positive and venture into marriage its benefits.

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My sister’s boyfriend is pestering meDear Obaa Yaa,

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I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.

My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.

She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.

But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.

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Princess, Tema.


Dear Princess,

Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.

Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.

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Act fast before the situation exacerbates.

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My tenant is too lazy

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Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.

We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.

One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.

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Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?

Beatrice, Accra


Dear Beatrice,

I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.

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Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.

Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?

No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.

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