Obaa Yaa
He wants me to be his cousin
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I got married shortly after we completed senior high school. My mother then bought a ticket for him to go abroad where he went and stayed with my brother.
He went through some kind of marriage over there in order to get a good job, or so he said, and he asked me to be patient.
A few weeks ago, my husband wrote to say that he was coming home with his wife, and that I should pretend to be a cousin. I also heard they have a child.
I can’t do what he wants me to, even though everyone, including my mother thinks I should.
And I don’t want to be his wife only when he comes home. I want to join him over there because that was the arrangement.
Akweley, Accra
Dear Akweley,
Don’t let anyone force you into doing anything that you don’t want to do. If you can’t pretend, then don’t try.When you meet your husband, it is important to let him know how you feel about the arrangement.
And you will have to come to an agreement as to whether or not you want to continue with your marriage.
Whatever decision you come up to will not be easy for you, but do make sure that it is what is best for you.
• Kwabena kwabena in
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
