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Don’t deny husbands sex …it amounts to domestic violence — Gender Activist
Married women who intentionally deny their husbands sex as a form of punishment commit offence that amounts to domestic violence, the Upper West Regional Director of Department of Gender, Mrs Charity Banye has said.
“If you are capable of indulging in sexual relations with your husband as a married woman and you constantly refuse him because you are angry with him instead of using dialogue, then you are abusing him and infringing on his rights”, she stressed.
Mrs Banye who was speaking at a stakeholders’ meeting on ending sexual and gender-based violence (SGBV) at Wa defined abuse as “any act that causes physical or psychological pain to another person.”
“Some women resort to wearing tight-fitting jeans to bed because they have issues with their husbands so that the husbands would not have access to their bodies, yet when the men refuse them housekeeping money (chop money) the next day, they call for the heavens to come down”, she said.
The director stated that instead of denying each other sex as a way of resolving conflicts, spouses should rather use effective inter-personal communication to get their domestic issues resolved.
She further stated that heaping insults on men was a serious form of abuse that could hunt them for several days and increase their inferiority complex such that they would begin to withdraw from their wives in order to find solace in other women (side chics).
“Some women have weapons of mass destruction up here [pointing to her lips] and can rain insults on their husbands at the least opportunity, even in public”, she stated, and pointed out that even when the husbands sought to apologise for things they did not do right, some of the women responded to their efforts with insults.
Mrs Banye stated that such habits from women often drove the men away from home whereas others who were very quick tempered also resorted to physical abuse which she described as unfortunate and condemned vehemently.
She encouraged wives to be modest in their speech and the men to relax their egos in dealing with each other such that abuses would be minimised in marital homes.
She said that some men were also infamous for economic abuse such that they failed to establish businesses for their wives, whereas others refused to also provide financially for the house.
“There was this case where a man stopped his wife from working because he did not want other men to make advances at her. I was curious to meet the ‘miss world’ he was keeping at home and when I finally did, she told me how she wanted to work but was prevented from doing so”, she cited, and called on couples to make their homes lively for themselves and their children.
On his part, the Regional Commander of the Domestic Violence and Victims Support Unit (DOVVSU) of the Regional Police Command, Assistant Superintendent of Police (ASP) Adongo Apiiya called on men to empower their wives economically by making them aware of their salaries.
He said if men informed their wives about their earnings, they would be able to make sound budgets at home in accordance with the man’s total income and not make unreasonable demands.
“When you get home, give your pay-slips to your wives, inform them when there is an increment and involve them in planning the expenditure process so that they will give you peace of mind”, he added.
From Lydia Darlington
Fordjour, Wa
The Accra Metropolitan Assembly (AMA) says it will deploy teams of Public Health Officers, members of its Sanitation Taskforce, and labourers, including sweepers and janitors, across all sub-metros to support the third National Sanitation Day exercise.
It explained that these teams will be equipped with waste collection trucks, tippers, and other tools to help with desilting, refuse collection, and transporting waste to approved disposal sites.
The AMA reminded residents that failing to comply with the sanitation directive or refusing to participate in communal labour is an offence.
It said offenders risk a fine of up to 100 penalty units, imprisonment between 30 days and six months, or both, with repeat offenders liable to additional daily penalties.
It urged all residents, traders, transport operators, market women, shop owners, landlords, tenants, and businesses to actively participate in the exercise.
The AMA said it counts on everyone’s collective responsibility to keep Accra clean, liveable, and resilient, especially as the city approaches Christmas and the New Year.
By: Jacob Aggrey
The MP for Old Tafo, Vincent Assafuah, has criticised what he describes as an attempt by the President to influence the work of Parliament in the ongoing debate over the future of the Office of the Special Prosecutor.
On his facebook post in response to recent developments, Assafuah argued that those who previously claimed he did not understand the separation of powers must now reconsider their position.
He noted that the current situation shows the President trying to direct Parliamentarians on how to carry out their duties, a move he believes challenges the very principles those critics defended.
Assafuah urged the President to restrain the Deputy Attorney General, Justice Sai, following the widespread public backlash over moves linked to the possible scrapping of the OSP.
He stressed that the case currently before the court should be withdrawn, describing it as unnecessary.
He referenced Section 4 of the OSP Act, explaining that all prosecutions by the Office of the Special Prosecutor must be authorised by the Attorney General, whose powers he described as sacrosanct.
By: Jacob Aggrey
