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‘Breasts go kill man’
The Breast is part of the human body at the upper front part. It is the tissues overlying the chest muscles. According to www.webmd.com, women’s breasts are made of specialised tissue that produces milk (glandular tissue) as well as fatty tissue.
The amount of fat determines the size of the breast. It is the main source of nutrition for babies. Health experts recommend breast milk for feeding of babies for at least six months after birth due to the wholeness of the meal it provides.
According to the health experts, it contains protein, fats and carbohydrates and minerals which make it the ideal meal for babies.
It is something that engages the focus of most men and if you are a woman who is not substantially endowed, it could really pose a problem for you in getting a life partner. I am sure the ladies are aware and that is why they go to all lengths to increase the size of their breasts.
Some of us who happen to be the only boy among many siblings, we have the privilege of how our sisters as girls growing up, sometimes wear our mother’s brassiers jokingly.
This shows how important they value their breasts even as young children and they grow up desiring substantial increase in the size of their breasts and account for the huge numbers of women who have undergone breast implant all over the world.
However, there is an interesting mystery that needs to be resolved when it comes to men’s attitude towards the breasts of women. Most women who have both male and female children tell of the strong desire of their male babies for breast milk compared with the female babies.
Funnily enough, when they grow to become men, they still are attracted to it, a fact most married women would attest to. What exactly is with women’s breasts that so engage the attention of men is something worth looking into.
I recall a funny story that a junior at the secondary school, who is now a Bishop of a Church in the United Kingdom (UK), told us. According to him, he attended a Christian fellowship meeting at Tema (Ghana) and a funny incident occurred as they were dancing during the praises session.
He told us that, as people were excited and were dancing and jumping, he saw a lady wearing a pink dress which was not very opaque and as she was jumping up and down, her breasts were also following suit and he found himself gazing at them.
A few moments later, he came to himself and suddenly realised that he had been doing what a Christian should not be doing. Such is the attractive power of women’s breast on men, and if you do not discipline your eyes and your emotions it could land you in serious trouble. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’ and that is what happened to a man who now finds himself in deep trouble.
According to a news item shown on one of the popular TV stations, a man is on the run after assaulting his wife in an attempt to kill her. The story has it that the wife confronted the husband after her daughter who is the man’s stepdaughter complained to her mother that her stepfather has been making sexual advances at her.
The girl then was asked about what happened and she related that her stepfather on one occasion, fondled her breasts and sucked them and then warned her that if she tells her mum, he would kill her and she should know that she is the only child of her mum and that he would also kill himself after killing her. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’
A lady shared a story many years ago about a problem a man confided in her so that she could in a nice way convince his wife so that the house help would be sent back to her parents to save him from adultery.
Apparently the young lady considered the man like her father having stayed long with the couple and developed a very cordial relationship between the man and his wife. She ,therefore, did not cover herself well and it did not occur to her that she was causing problems for the man.
The man claimed that on occasions in his presence, the young lady could show her breast to his wife to examine something, say a rash or something on her breast without any sense of shyness.
To her, they were her parents but it was causing the man’s emotions to run riot in his groin and he then decided to do something about the situation to prevent embarrassing himself and destroying his marriage. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’
One of the media stations also showed a documentary concerning the life of prostitutes and a prostitute was interviewed to share her story to enable viewers to have an idea about the harrowing experiences these so-called sex workers go through.
The lady in response to a question as to whether she let the patrons have access to her breasts, said no and that access to her breasts attracted extra fee. The journalist doing the interview then asked whether the patrons were willing to pay and she said yes and that a lot of them paid the extra to get access to her breasts. It definitely ‘go kill man’.
Not to sound sacrilegious, I am 100 per cent sure that a lot of the pastors both junior and seniors, if they will tell the truth, will confess that they are very much excited at the sight of pointed breasts of their spouses.
I think that, that is the reason some women cut short the six month recommended period for breast feeding babies to prevent their breasts from sagging. Again, I suspect it is one of the reasons some indisciplined pastors engage in fornication because they are easily tempted when doing spiritual deliverance and part of the ladies breasts undergoing deliverance become exposed.
If you are a Christian and you do not want your pastor to fall to temptation, then please pray seriously for them and advise the ‘Asafo Maame” also not to deny access of her boobs to your pastor, because “breasts go kill man’.
BY LAUD KISSI-MENSAH
The writer is a social commentator
Conflict at work is more common than you might think. According to 2022 research by The Myers-Briggs Company, more than a third of the workforce reports dealing with conflict often, very often, or all the time in the workplace. The same report found that managers spend an average of four hours per week dealing with conflict, and nearly 25 per cent of people think their managers handle conflict poorly or very poorly.
Addressing a dispute might feel tense or awkward, but resolving the conflict is typically well worth it in the long run. Whether you’re trying to mediate conflict between colleagues or are directly involved, here are seven steps you can take to manage workplace conflict.
1. Don’t put it off
Facing conflict head-on is hard. However, waiting too long to address it can negatively impact your emotional well-being, focus, and the entire office environment. If you’re feeling angry, letting that emotion fester can also escalate it over time. This can make you less responsive to other points of view and make it harder to resolve the issue.
The sooner you can address the conflict, the better it will be for you, the person you disagree with, and your entire team.
2. Learn all you can about the problem
It’s important to determine the type of conflict you’re dealing with. Begin by considering the cause of the conflict. For example, ask yourself whether someone said something that upset you or if you have emotions of anger and resentment that stemmed from something that happened.
Then try to identify if it’s a task, relationship, value, or team conflict. Once you know what type of conflict it is, you can work to resolve it with specific tactics for that situation.
If you skip this step, you may waste time or escalate the situation further by trying to address issues irrelevant to the real conflict.
3. Actively listen
Listen attentively when people share their side of the story. Active listening is one of the most valuable professional skills you can possess. This type of listening involves not only hearing what the other person is saying but also listening to understand their point of view.
No matter your role in conflict, it’s easy to begin sharing your opinion with little regard for the other people involved. However, it’s important to learn about all sides of a disagreement to make well-informed decisions before drawing conclusions.
To reach a resolution, you must step back and prioritize listening over talking. Ultimately, that will encourage the other person to do the same when it’s your turn to speak. –source: betterup.com
Today, I focus on the Temple Of Praise Ministries International (TOP Church) in Helsinki, as I continue my description of personalities or institutions and their accomplishments as members of the Ghanaian Diaspora in Finland.
The TOP Church in Finland has seen significant strides and accomplishments that must be made known to the public. 
Some history
The Church was established in Finland in September 2016. Since its inception, it has steadily grown both spiritually and numerically, by the grace of God, as disclosed to me by Mr Matthew Anini Twumasi, the Presiding Elder of TOP’s branch in Finland. The TOP Church has other branches across Africa, Europe, and America.
The Church in Finland was founded with a vision to create a welcoming and dynamic community where people could experience God’s love and grace (see, www.topchurchfinland.org). According to Presiding Elder Matthew, the TOP Church operates within a unique environment where Christianity coexists with what is seen as a largely secular society.
Despite this, he submits, there are significant opportunities for outreach, unity, and demonstrating the love of Christ through service and community engagement.
Activities
Church services at the TOP Church are typically held on Sundays for the main worship. In addition, there are mid-week prayer sessions, Saturday prayer services, and a half-night service held on the last Friday of every month. “We also organise quarterly programs”, Elder Matthew added.
His impression of the Church so far has been positive. “It is a vibrant and welcoming community where members are committed to worship, fellowship, and supporting one another in faith”, he stated.
In sum, Elder Matthew said the Church continues to grow by God’s grace. “We remain hopeful and committed to spreading the Gospel, strengthening the faith of our members, and making a positive impact in society”, he continued.
Achievements
The TOP Church has a number of achievements and achievements. Some of the strengths include strong community bonds, cultural diversity, and deep commitment to spiritual growth.
I also remember that during the COVID-19 period, I heard that the TOP Church was one such bodies that hugely supported its members and others to cope with the situation.
According to Elder Matthew, the challenges facing the church include “adapting to cultural differences, engaging the younger generation, expanding outreach in a secular society, and securing a permanent place of worship”.
Role in the Ghanaian community in Finland
The TOP Church plays a prominent role as a religious group that serves Ghanaian migrants and others in the Finnish society.
Thus, the TOP Church is a religious body for Ghanaian migrants in Finland and other nationalities who want to worship with them for diversity and better intercultural and multicultural understanding.
The Church also has mechanisms in place to support its members who are bereaved as a way to commiserate with them in times of death and funerals.
The Ghanaian community has played a vital role in the growth of the Church. Their strong sense of fellowship, dedication to worship, and active participation have helped build a solid foundation and attract others to the ministry, according to Elder Matthew.
Integration
By its activities, the TOP Church is helping to ensure integration of its members well into the Finish society.
This is important since social interaction and citizens’ well-being are an important part of the integration process.
The role of migrant associations and groups such as TOP Church acting as bridge-builders for the integration and inclusion of migrants through participation in the decision making process and by acting as a representative voice is highly appreciated in Finland. Thank you!
GHANA MATTERS column appears fortnightly. Written in simple, layman’s terms, it concentrates on matters about Ghana and beyond. It focuses on everyday life issues relating to the social, cultural, economic, religious, political, health, sports, youth, gender, etc. It strives to remind us all that Ghana comes first. The column also takes a candid look at the meanings and repercussions of our actions, especially those things we take for granted or even ignore. There are key Ghanaian values we should uphold rather than disregard with impunity. We should not overlook the obvious. We need to search for the hidden or deeply embedded values and try to project them.
With Dr Perpetual Crentsil
