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My sister’s boyfriend is pestering meDear Obaa Yaa,

Published

15 hours ago

October 18, 2025

I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.

My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.

She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.

But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.

Princess, Tema.

Dear Princess,

Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.

Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.

Act fast before the situation exacerbates.

Obaa Yaa

My tenant is too lazy

Published

15 hours ago

October 18, 2025

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.

We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.

One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.

Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?

Beatrice, Accra

Dear Beatrice,

I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.

Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.

Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?

No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.

Obaa Yaa

I am Torn Between Two Guys

Published

1 week ago

October 11, 2025

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.

I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.

Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.

Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.

—Esinam, Legon

Dear Esinam,

When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.

Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?

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