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The epidemic of failing marriages

Observing the typical Sikaman family from afar, one can really be amused. You won’t fall to see a family member behaving exact­ly like a Vice-President and another doubling like a Trades Union Congress (TUC) man.

There is also every chance for you to meet an opposition flag bearer and if you’re lucky, you’d meet the President himself, His Excellency Sir Kwame Korkorti, commander-in-chief of the family forces, head of state of the Republic of Korkorti and Sons.

There are various family types with some having the wife as the President for reasons too obvious to mention. They are the breadwinners, and on top of that, they wield the power of the laddle; meaning that the portofolio of the kitchen is under their armpit.

In such a situation, the husband ceases to be a power broker. At best he is a linguist. He doesn’t make the rules, he interprets them. Such a fam­ily is a stable one because the woman is a better manager of family resourc­es for the fact that she doesn’t spend on alcohol. She may take ‘quarter’ once in a while, but that is only to trigger off a dull appetite against fufu and groundnut soup.

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The sad thing about the Sikaman family is that many of them do not last these days. It is also a fact akin to a worrisome global trend. In the United States, three out of every five marriages end on the rocks. In Russia getting married today and getting divorced the next dawn is a common phenomenon.

Press reports on the Russian situation denote a sad palaver of a super-power society. Russian women are blamed for most of the divorc­es. According to observers, they are unfaithful to their husbands, a factor that has skyrocketed the incidence of the divorce comedy.

Some, however, blame capitalism on the bad turn of events. With a liberal political and economic atmo­sphere, everyone is said to be liber­ated, adventurous wives inclusive. So their husbands must bear with the situation or quit. No compromise!

The Russian situation isn’t an iso­lated one, though. The whole palaver is that divorce is becoming a global epidemic, a disease no vaccine is able to prevent. I was sad when Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley got divorced.

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The lady claimed Mike could not do “things” to her. “He didn’t know I ever existed”, she bemoaned the last days of a tragedy-hit marriage. If that is true, then I’m sorry for her. She should have taken someone like Koko­tako. It would have been a different story altogether, because the guy reg­ularly drinks the dregs of palmwine. No lady comes and goes back without a dream in her heart.

Tyson and Lady Diana

Talk about the marriage of Mike Tyson to the beautiful Robin Givens and you’ll realise how it all started fairy-tale-like and ended in a bedroom that and often been transformed into a boxing ring – a mini Madison Square Garden.

When Tyson took Givens and her mother to Russia, I guess the cold en­tered into Mike’s head and he chased wife and mother around a hotel swearing to kill them.

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The old lady did not know she was a good sprinter until the occasion pre­sented itself. And she ran as if she had mad-cow disease. The die was cer­tainly cast. In a television appearance with Mike, Givens told the interviewer that her husband suffered psychiatric problems and beat her. Mike could not bear it any longer. They divorced.

The marriage between Prince Charles and Lady Diana and its tragic coda is one that has brought doubts whether the monarchy is worth perpetuating or dismantling. My own opinion is that the monarchy is no lon­ger worth a dime. Not with all these sexual tragicomedies inundating the centre of the royal family by a relent­less osmosis.

Anyway, before the marriage, an astrologer announced it would not last. The prince, a Scorpio and the princess a Cancer, both of the water group were supposed to experience a very boring marriage. With a suppos­edly incompatible birth numbers and whatever, the astrologer declared the marriage was disaster-bound.

It is not, however, clear whether it is a prophecy come true or the mar­riage could have been saved if both had wanted to preserve the honour of the monarchy. And with the prince and princess having been very liberal with desecrating the temple of God in adul­terous escapades, the monarchy has lost the moral legitimacy of its exis­tence. Moreso when other members of the royal family like Fergie have been too morally wayward for the sanctity of and reverence for the throne.

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In Sikaman, the cause of rock-bound marriage include money pala­ver, infidelity, sexual incompatibility, boredom and common snoring. Well, some wives complain that when their husband snore, the foundation of the building shakes. So they experience mini earthquakes at night and cannot sleep. So they must go to their par­ents and complain.

The palaver is that in some cases the women out-snore the men, but the men rarely complain. It is normal­ly the women who complain to their parents as a first step to quitting the marriage.

“I am terrified”, a wife will tell her parents. “I can’t sleep even if I take valium.

When he takes akpeteshie before supper, it is worse. It is like his nose has been plugged to high-voltage elec­tricity. I can’t stand it any longer. One day the building will collapse on us”.

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“But didn’t you know the man was a dangerous snorer before you decided to stay with him?” her father would ask.

“At first it was not so serious. Now it has become like a criminal offence since he is depriving me of my sleep. He has to be put before the High Court”.

Problems associated with marriage can be minimised with counselling before and after marriage.

Very good marriage counsellors teach you how to become sexually compatible, how to resolve family crisis, how to bring excitement into a dull marriage and how to tone down a vibrating nose.

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This is what the churches do these days. They have trained marriage counsellors that take prospective couples through the theory and prac­tice of marriage. Perhaps if Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie had been coun­selled, it would have been a different matter today.

And Lady Diana would still have been in the arms of the Prince of Wales.

This article was first published on Saturday, November 2, 1996

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Artificial Intelligence in Ghanaian workplaces: Opportunities, concerns, and the way forward

Artificial Intelligence (AI) is no more a remote concept for organ­isations in Ghana. Recent research has highlighted the significant impact AI is having in remodelling workplaces in Ghana, unveiling a mix of opportunity, anxiety, and a pressing call for coordinated nation­al response. A study focusing on a Ghanaian service organisation in the advertising industry investigated how AI influences employee skills development. The results paint a picture of a technological shift that is rapidly gaining ground in the local workplace, albeit with mixed impli­cations for the workforce.

AI and employee upskilling: A double-edged sword

The study found a statistically sig­nificant, though moderate, positive relationship between AI deployment and employee upskilling. Employees exposed to AI technologies were more likely to enhance their capa­bilities—particularly in areas such as data analysis, digital literacy, and continuous learning. This find­ing aligns with global trends where AI is facilitating learning adaptation and professional growth.

However, the research also pointed out a sobering reality that AI adoption often comes together with workforce downsizing. The data showed a strong correlation between AI implementation and employee redundancies, raising red flags about job security for many Ghanaians.

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“While AI can help employees do their jobs more effectively, it also automates tasks that previously required human effort”, the author noted. “This duality—simultane­ously empowering and displacing workers—is at the heart of the AI debate.”

Organisational relevance and the AI imperative

Despite these challenges, organ­isations embracing AI are seeing positive results in terms of rele­vance and competitive advantage. The study confirmed a statistically significant relationship between AI adoption and organisational effec­tiveness, though the influence was not overwhelmingly strong. This suggests that while AI can enhance efficiency, it must be strategically integrated into business models to be fully effective.

Yet, many Ghanaian companies, especially SMEs, remain hesitant. Barriers such as lack of technical infrastructure, fears of losing con­trol to algorithms, and low digital literacy rates hamper widespread adoption. This is echoed in South African and broader African con­texts, where similar patterns of resistance and slow uptake prevail.

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Current AI issues in the Ghana­ian workplace

Ghana faces several unique challenges in integrating AI into its workplaces:

Unlike Kenya or Rwanda, Ghana lacks a clear national AI policy or roadmap. This absence of legal frameworks and guidelines hinders sustainable, responsible AI imple­mentation.

The study revealed that while some staff have received training— primarily on Microsoft 365 Copilot— many are limited in their exposure. This creates a lopsided workforce where a few benefit, and many lag behind.

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The largest demographic in the study (27.5 per cent) was aged 18–25. Without deliberate interven­tions, this youth cohort faces a high risk of being left behind by AI-driv­en changes.

Employee sentiment toward AI is mixed—13 per cent expressed enthusiasm, while over 20 per cent were wary or pessimistic. This shows the emotional toll and uncer­tainty surrounding AI’s future role in jobs.

The way forward

To harness AI’s benefits while mi­nimising its risks, Ghana must adopt a strategic, inclusive approach:

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The government should develop a comprehensive AI framework that supports innovation while protect­ing workers’ rights. Such a policy should include data protection laws, ethical AI guidelines, and incentives for private sector adoption.

Organizations must invest heavily in upskilling and reskilling employ­ees. These programmes should not just focus on technical skills but also foster soft skills such as critical thinking, adaptability, and digital literacy.

Educational institutions should embed AI and digital economy top­ics into basic, secondary, and tertia­ry curricula. Producing AI-literate graduates is key to future-proofing the workforce.

Collaboration between govern­ment, industry, and academia is essential to pool resources, share expertise, and drive AI readiness across sectors.

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As AI transforms work, employers must provide psychological support and foster inclusive environments. Change management strategies are essential to guide employees through this transition.

Conclusion

AI is here to stay, and Ghanaian workplaces are beginning to feel its presence. While the promise of enhanced productivity and com­petitiveness is real, so are the threats of job loss and exclusion. The research findings make it clear: the future of work in Ghana must be one where technology and human development evolve togeth­er. Without deliberate, inclusive policies and strategic foresight, the country risks widening inequality and stifling innovation. But with the right investments and political will, Ghana can turn AI from a threat into an engine of inclusive econom­ic growth.

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By Esther J.K. Attiogbe (PhD)

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Obituaristic and marital nonsense

Some churches are not encouraging members to opt for wake- keeping in any event of death of a member

It was a yearly ritual. Every year, on the day her husband died, she dressed up beautifully, went on top of his grave and danced to her satisfac­tion. For several hours, she’d boogie up and down, style after style, until she could dance no more. She’d then de­scend the grave and walk home panting yet contented.

Sikaman Palava
Sikaman Palava

When asked by reporters why she had taken to the yearly open-air disco dancing, the widow said it was in honour of DEATH which took away her husband. “When he was alive. I never had a moment’s peace,” she said.

What an honest confession about a dead person. She minced no words. The man gave her no peace, and that was exactly what she was saying. A widow in Sikaman would dare not say that of her deceased husband. His fam­ily members would procure pick-axes, hoes and cutlasses and descend on her with red eyes and tear her to pieces.

Problems associated with modern-day funerals is the wake-keeping

It is traditionally not proper to speak ill of people when they are dead, but some people are beginning to feel that the custom of speaking well about even dead criminals at funerals is not helping society either.

They claim that if the living know that all their misdeeds will be recount­ed at their funeral when they are dead, they will endeavour not to misconduct themselves while alive. I think that is a valid point, because the dead have had it too easy.

When someone volunteered to say that a deceased fellow died of alcohol, his neck was nearly twisted. What right did he have to air the cause of death even if it was true that the guy had died of too much bitters? In any case, did he perform any post mortem to ascertain the cause of death? And for what earthly or heavenly reason did he have to associate their loved one with an evil called ALCOHOL? “Next time you talk nonsense, we shall physically weaken your jaw.

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It was at a funeral when a pastor undertook to say nice words about a dead common criminal that he was cor­rected by the deceased’s own profes­sional comrade.

He raised his right hand to signify that he wanted to chip in a point of or­der as the resident pastor spoke of how exemplary the dead man’s ways were. When no one bothered to give him the chance, he stood up and raised both hands, meaning that he had the con­stitutional right to slot in a rejoinder before the lies became over-whelming.

He was heavily drunk. Asked what he wanted to say, he broached the sub­ject that first and fore-most, he would recommend that the pastor be ex-com­municated from the church because he was a congenital liar, a quality unbecoming of a clergyman. He then proceeded to say the deceased was a criminal just like himself and deserved no praises in any church.

He intimated that the deceased, when he was alive, cheated him out of a booty, not once or twice, but many times, for which he never forgave him till he died. He said such a person’s body should not be brought to contam­inate the holiness of a church room. Before church elders could drag him out, he had spoken his mind.

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I guess if the dead man had a soul that was present where he was laid in state, the soul would have repented right in the church room.

Well there are many problems associated with modern-day funerals. One of them which is getting solved gradually is the wake-keeping palaver. The Akyem Abuakwa Traditional Council has banned wake-keepings as a means of cutting down cost of funerals in the traditional area. The Presbyteri­an Church is also not encouraging its members to opt for wake- keeping in any event of death of a member.

What are wake-keepings for any­way? When there were no mortuaries in the past, wake was kept because fami­ly members could not leave their dead bodies and go to bed. Keeping wake has, therefore, outlived its usefulness in present day circumstances.

A wake-keeping today is an occasion where you can get a married woman drunk and seduce her, where young girls elope with married men for amo­rous purposes, and where people either get married or lose their spouses. Ev­erything is under the cover of darkness, supervised by Jimmy Satan.

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A funeral that is without an elabo­rate wake-keeping can save at least a lot of money. A funeral that is without frivolous eating and boozing can also save a fortune. The dead must not be a burden for the living, just like getting married shouldn’t be any big deal.

The average Sikaman bride is married at least three times without any sane reason. Her Caucasian or Anglo-Saxon counterpart gets married just once in a very simply ceremony.

Why are many young men unable to marry? The fact is that they can’t. They don’t have the dough. They must KNOCK DOOR, ENGAGE and WED-three in one. By the time they are through, they are in debt to a tune of 5 million. No marriage is stable when the founda­tion is built on a $5 million debt.

I guess my great grandfather mar­ried his loving wife with two bottles of akpeteshie, five tubers of yam and a bottle of zomi. Check out how much I have to spend when I want wife. You can’t get a woman with akpeteshie, yam tubers and palm oil anywhere in Sikaman today. Even in the remotest cottage, they ask you to “do wedding”. It is a command, not a suggestion.

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The result is that the young men can’t get married, and once they are virile and not impotent, they continue impregnating the young and unmarried girls, littering communities with kids born out of wedlock, many ending up as the street kids we see everywhere hawking barefoot instead of studying in school.

This article was first published

on Saturday, April 18, 1998

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