Obaa Yaa
I am tired of his lies and empty promises
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship over five years and l am beginning to entertain fears that my lover is deceiving me with unfulfilled promises.
I feel disappointed anytime l remember my past life, especially when l disobeyed my parents and made them to become the laughing stock in the community.
My boyfriend persuaded me to stop school, leave the comfort of my parents’ home, l defied the orders of my parents and foolishly followed him.
Unfortunately, l am now struggling to get my daily bread and things are not going on well with me.
We have aborted two pregnancies and l am entertaining fears that l will be pregnant pretty soon and would be compelled to abort another pregnancy with the excuse that “l am not ready to father a child”.
I am tired of his lies and empty promises and making me a laughing stock in the community.
Though l love him, l have decided to forget about him and return to my parents to plead for forgiveness.
Will my parents take me back?
Alice, Accra.
Dear Alice,
Defying the orders of your parents in the first instance was not good because you have disobeyed the orders of God.
I can envisage how your parents will feel being let down by someone they had spent their love, resources, time and energy looking after from childhood till you became of age.
Your defiance could be likened to a stab in the back and they must have been disappointed in you.
Repeated abortions could block your chances of becoming pregnant, especially at a time you may need a child. Therefore, the earlier you leave your boyfriend, the better it will serve your interest and safeguard your future.
It will be in your interest to go back to your parents like the prodigal son in the Bible and plead for mercy.
I have the belief that they will welcome you back.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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