Obaa Yaa
My girlfriend is behaving weird
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I never thought the person who once brought happiness into my life would become the same person making me question whether I am still important to her.
I am a young boy from Sowutuom, and in a relationship. When we started dating, she was caring, supportive and always made me feel loved. We could talk for hours, share our problems and enjoy each other’s company.
However, recently, her attitude towards me has changed. She no longer communicate with me the way she used to. She sometimes ignores my calls, replies to my messages after a long time, and appears less interested in spending time with me.
Whenever I try to ask her what is wrong, she tells me that I worry too much or that I am making unnecessary issues out of nothing. This has left me confused because I am only trying to understand what has changed between us.
I don’t know if she is facing a personal challenge or if her feelings towards me have changed.
I still care about her and I do not want to lose someone who means so much to me. But I also do not want to remain in a relationship where I constantly feel ignored and unappreciated.
Nana Yaw, Sowutuom
Dear Nana Yaw,
Your feelings are understandable. When someone’s behaviour changes suddenly, it can create confusion and make you wonder about what is happening to the relationship.
However, don’t rush to conclude that your girlfriend no longer cares about you. There may be personal issues, stress or challenges affecting her that she has not shared with you.
The best thing to do is to have a calm and honest conversation with her. Choose the right moment, avoid accusations and explain how her recent behaviour makes you feel. Give her the chance to also share what she is experiencing.
Remember that a relationship requires effort from both sides. You should not be the only one fighting to keep it alive.
If she is willing to communicate and work on the relationship, both of you can rebuild the bond you once had.
But if she continues to ignore your feelings and refuses to make any effort, you may need to consider whether the relationship is still good for you.
Most importantly, don’t beg someone to love you. Give her an opportunity to explain herself and make an effort. If she genuinely wants the relationship, you should see that through her actions.
Love should bring understanding, respect and peace, not constant worry and uncertainty.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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