Obaa Yaa
Don’t go there and lose your soul
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am convinced that you can explain why I am always losing the jobs that I get.
I am a contractor who supplies any item you can think of. Things used to be rosy until recently.
Every customer who orders goods from me always return to cancel the order.
This happened to me ten consecutive times.
A friend of mine suggested that we should ‘pass somewhere’ because she was sure that some forces were working against me.
Obaa Yaa, if it is not witchcraft, what else could it be?
Sammy K.T.
Nungua, Accra
Dear Sammy,
HAVE you cared to find out why people are cancelling their orders?
Maybe someone is saying bad things about you to your customers to ‘spoil’ your business.
It might also be that, you do not deal honestly with your clients.
So get to know what the real cause is. I do not object to the fact that witches can cause havoc.
However, many things we attribute to witches are caused by our own selves. So investigate to find out why your business is taking a nosedive.
In any case, ‘passing somewhere’ can land you in trouble. You can be deceived and defrauded. You might also lose your soul to the devil.
So think twice.
Six months after marriage, I realised my wife had cheated twice. One happened months before marriage and the other happened just two months after marriage. We dated for four years before we got married.
She had saved the name on her phone as Chairman. The conversation between them didn’t happen every day but once they talked, everything was about sex. My wife encouraged every word and even made suggestions as to where to meet.
I want to meet ‘Chairman,’ is it a good or a bad idea?
Yoofi, Takoradi.
Dear Yoofi,
What you have discovered is deeply painful, especially after investing four years of dating and entering marriage with trust, love and commitment. Betrayal in marriage is not only about the physical act, but also the emotional damage, secrecy and broken trust that come with it.
At this point, it is important not to make decisions purely out of anger or revenge. You need clarity, honest and calm conversations. Your wife must first be willing to tell the whole truth and take responsibility for her actions without excuses.
However, before deciding whether to stay or leave, ask yourself some important questions. Is she willing to cut ties completely with this man? Is she ready to rebuild trust through openness and accountability? And most importantly, do you still see a future with her despite the hurt?
Healing from infidelity takes time, patience and sometimes professional counselling. Do not suffer in silence. Speak to a trusted counsellor, pastor or matured family person who can guide both of you wisely.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 28 years old guy who has been posted as a trained teacher in one of the rural areas in the Central Region.
I didn’t move in with my family because of the nature of my wife’s job.
About two months ago, I befriended one of the students who run errands for me. One thing led to the other and mistakenly had my way with her.
After two weeks, the girl came to tell me that she was pregnant and that I should give her money to terminate the pregnancy because if her parents get to know of it, they would cause my arrest.
This got me disturbed because I might lose [u1] my job.
Upon a second thought, I discussed this with a friend and she told me it might be a plan to extort money from me.
I personally texted her not to terminate the pregnancy but interestingly, I received a response that she has seen her monthly flow.
In fact, I became convinced about what my colleague told me. I want to end the relationship, what should I tell her and what should be my response when my wife hears of it.
Obaa Yaa, please I need an urgent advice.
David, Tema.
Dear David,
Your case is a very simple one. You are even lucky your friend who is much acquainted with the chicanery of the local girls fortunately hinted you and the girl has confirmed it all.
You better quit that relationship and avoid her because she thinks about following you home.
If you haven’t told her you are married, please tell her now.
