l feel shy to propose to her

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I read your column every week and l find it interesting and educative.  This will surely help the young ones to shape their lives. The sort of complex letters you have receive d and the soothing solutions you offer to people in distress is quite encouraging.

I am in love with a lady who was my study-mate in the university and l attend the same church with her. She is a chorister while l serve as an usher.

Having been in her company for some years, l have realised that she is a hard working lady, very meticulous about details and l can conclude that she will be a good wife.

Unfortunately, l find it difficult to disclose my intention to her because l am afraid that she may turn down my marriage proposal, a situation which can possibly end our friendship.

I feel reluctant because our conversations have not centred on issues pertaining to marriage.

What step do you suggest l take?

John, Kumasi.

Dear John,

I wish to thank you for the passion you have for this column and for making time to read it every week. Indeed, your long-standing friendship as school mates and to church among others has given you a better knowledge about what this lady is worth and capable of doing.

Just as you are observing her as some who posses these enviable qualities, so is another gentleman also taking steps to propose to her if that is not done already.  l suggest  that you must go by the popular adage which says, “Make haste while the sun shines”.

If you are not careful, your proposal will be too late. Additionally, your long association with her should give you the added advantage and the courage to propose to her.