I can’t forget the orgasms

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 42-year old married woman and I am haunted by my past. I always think about the boyfriend I had when I was 25 years old and how he turned my life around.

In fact, he showed me what it means to get an orgasm, and I will never forget the enjoyment.

We could, however, not get married because he travelled to the United States (US) leaving me behind, but I tell you for sure that I would not hesitate at all if he comes back today and asks me to have sex with him.

Since I got married, my hus­band has not been able to give me orgasm and anytime I com­plain, he ignores me and down­plays all the efforts I have made to get him to up his game.

I am very much confused and afraid to do anything outside of marriage because I love my hus­band, but that is the only prob­lem we have.

My worry now is how to erase him from my mind until I see him personally.

Obaa Yaa, please help me.

Becky O. S.

Accra

Dear Becky,

YOU are currently married and I will advise you to control your feelings no matter the feelings for your ex-boyfriend.

In as much as you have a thrill for your past, try to sit your husband down and discuss your sex life.

Let him know how you want it and how he should go about it to make you happy.

I think you can safely rely on the fact that time wears off memories.

You may not be able to erase the sweet memories immediately, but with time, you’ll get over it.

Meanwhile, stop fantasising about the guy and think about more useful things that would help you in life.

After all, life isn’t only about sex and orgasms.