Girls must avoid gifts with strings attached

 Dear Editor,

I read in your esteemed newspaper the lead story of last week, suggesting that men tend to abuse girls with the pretext of showing them love.

I find that quite intriguing because it portrays a soci­ety that is becoming unfair towards men.

In as much as there may be a few instances to buttress the call, it is also important for some of the institutions that conduct such research to delve deeper to arrive at a conclusion that presents a fair case.

I am in no way trying to justify these instances where men want to abuse women sexually because of an act of kindness. That surely defeats the reason for the gesture and expects to attract blessings from above.

In my view, some of our women are also the cause of some of these problems since they won’t accept no for a response in their demands.

There are a number of wom­en who would first draw your attention to such escapades before laying bare their needs and wants, knowing that after such act, it would be difficult to say no.

So, in a case when such guys meet other girls or ladies in need, the first thing that comes to mind is the sensual reward that follows.

In this case, if the lady fails to ‘deliver’, then this guy would begin to feel the lady owes him something because she had failed to also reward his kindness.

This is a practice society must shun but in doing so, women must also be taught that it is not every man they go to for help. They must also question some of the gifts from people. Men must also learn to be responsible and treat women with the respect they deserve.

Reginald Boah,

New Town, Accra