She believes l am cheating on her

Dear Obaa Yaa, 

Of late,my wife picks up quarrels with me without any provocations  and strongly believes that l am cheating on her.

Though l was once caught with a lady and embarrassed, that should not be the guarantee or the reason for the daily accusations and casting aspersions on me.

I close late from work and prefer to be left alone to think about other things in relation with my work but she fails to give me that peaceful atmosphere to operate.

I sometimes feel like staying with my friends at weekends, yet she keeps bothering me that l am cheating on her.

She is not prepared to believe me despite the explanations lhave given  her.

What should l do?

Kwame, Swedru


Dear Kwame,
You must get it clear that decisions or actions you take in life will definitely have dire consequences on you and your family.

Per the narrative, you have called for the tune and must be prepared to dance according to it. You have wilfully created the atmosphere of mistrust and you should not blame her actions because she can’t tell when you will falter again.

You have demonstrated to your wife that you cannot be trusted so far as fidelity is concerned.
I believe prior to her actions, there was no occasion on which she had attacked you for cheating on her.

As a husband, you have the obligation to create a congenial atmosphere and have effective period to dialogue with your wife at home.

Though you close late from work, and become very tired and have no time to spend with your wife, you, however, have plans to spend time with your friends.

I think a change of attitude is what you ought to do and demonstrate to your wife that you have changed for the better.