My Muslim boyfriend’s snoring is my headache

Dear Obaa Yaa,

During Eid-ul- Adha celebration, I decided to spend the weekend at my boyfriend’s place since we were planning towards our marriage.

To my surprise, what keeps me wide awake, restless and frustrated every single time is that he snores loudly like a generator running on full power, and I genuinely cannot get any rest

At a point, I thought it was just a normal thing, but I have realised it is something he does with ease and doesn’t see anything wrong with it.

When he steps out in the morning, I try to get enough sleep because I may not sleep in the evening.

The most annoying thing is that, he always wants to cuddle me. These two things are a no for me and a red flag.

We are about to get married, what should I do?

Enam, Keta.

Dear Enam,

The snoring and constant cuddling are frustrating, but you don’t have to choose between sleep and closeness.

Start with the snoring: check if it’s worse when he sleeps on his back, cut out alcohol before bed, try nasal strips or a humidifier, and see a doctor if he pauses while breathing.

For quick relief, foam earplugs or noise-cancelling headphones help a lot.

Separate blankets, a bigger bed, or sleeping apart on some nights often makes couples rest well and feel closer overall.

Bring this up before the wedding .Tell him you want to wake up next to him for years to come, but sleep deprivation makes you both miserable.

Test earplugs and side-sleeping this weekend, and if it’s still unbearable, bring in a doctor. Good sleep matters more for your marriage than staying glued together all night.