My girlfriend is behaving weird

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I never thought the person who once brought happiness into my life would become the same person making me question whether I am still important to her.

I am a young boy from Sowutuom, and in a relationship. When we started dating, she was caring, supportive and always made me feel loved. We could talk for hours, share our problems and enjoy each other’s company.

However, recently, her attitude towards me has changed. She no longer communicate with me the way she used to. She sometimes ignores my calls, replies to my messages after a long time, and appears less interested in spending time with me.

Whenever I try to ask her what is wrong, she tells me that I worry too much or that I am making unnecessary issues out of nothing. This has left me confused because I am only trying to understand what has changed between us.

I don’t know if she is facing a personal challenge or if her feelings towards me have changed.

I still care about her and I do not want to lose someone who means so much to me. But I also do not want to remain in a relationship where I constantly feel ignored and unappreciated.

Nana Yaw, Sowutuom

Dear Nana Yaw,

Your feelings are understandable. When someone’s behaviour changes suddenly, it can create confusion and make you wonder about what is happening to the relationship.

However, don’t rush to conclude that your girlfriend no longer cares about you. There may be personal issues, stress or challenges affecting her that she has not shared with you.

The best thing to do is to have a calm and honest conversation with her. Choose the right moment, avoid accusations and explain how her recent behaviour makes you feel. Give her the chance to also share what she is experiencing.

Remember that a relationship requires effort from both sides. You should not be the only one fighting to keep it alive.

If she is willing to communicate and work on the relationship, both of you can rebuild the bond you once had. 

But if she continues to ignore your feelings and refuses to make any effort, you may need to consider whether the relationship is still good for you.

Most importantly, don’t beg someone to love you. Give her an opportunity to explain herself and make an effort. If she genuinely wants the relationship, you should see that through her actions.

Love should bring understanding, respect and peace, not constant worry and uncertainty.

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