My conscience is killing me

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I gave birth five months ago and lost the baby. My husband is eager to make a new baby with me.

I personally lost interest in anything my husband does to me.

I don’t want him to make love to me because I am always not in the mood.

I am also mourning my baby because I have lost hope and it seems my husband is not coop­erating with me.

I give him excuses anytime he comes close to me.

How do I get this feeling out of my head?

Anonymous,

Mamprobi.

Dear Anonymous,

I am truly sorry to hear what you’re going through. Please know that you are not alone and with time, everything will be fine.

I believe it’s important to open up to your husband about how you feel.

He may not even be aware of the emotional or physical chang­es you’re experiencing until you express them.

Communication is key in any relationship, especially in marriages.

Remember, intimacy should be mutual and based on con­sent. It’s something that in­volves both partners.

Your husband should also be your closest friend. Withholding your feelings or continually giv­ing excuses may make him feel distant or rejected.

This can lead to misunder­standings or even temptations that can strain your marriage.

To avoid this, I encourage you to have a very honest and calm conversation with him.

You may also consider speak­ing with a professional coun­sellor or doctor who can guide you both toward a healthier and more fulfilling intimate life.

Above all, take your concerns to God in prayer before speak­ing to anyone else.

May God be with you and bless your marriage with healing and a deeper connection.