In-laws are the problem  In-laws are the problem

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

Thank you for publishing my article with the heading above. I am back to answer your two questions.

Luckily, my in-laws are in their family house whilst we are in our own house. It all started when my husband started building a house.

I didn’t know they disliked me. I’ve always tried to play my role as an in-law.

But upon an attitude they de­veloped, I have stopped.

Now, they come in groups to my house to insult me for no reason. My step daughter who is in Junior High School (JHS) 3 has been turned against me.

Now the girl only visit the house just to disrespect me and return to her aunties.

My husband mostly get angry over his family’s behaviour and exchange words with them some­times. They insult him in turn, claiming I have cast a spell on him.

They are under the impression that my husband has transferred all the household properties to me, including two cars he has already registered in my name.

The situation is very painful and distressing. We are both worried.

My children are much worried because they can no longer visit the family house.

Obaa, let me hear from you soon, as this man needs to bless the marriage at the church.

Cecilia Antwi,

Mampong

Dear Cecilia,

Thanks for responding to our letter. The situation calls for a family meeting to resolve the issue once and for all.

Make a formal complaint to your family head and let him summon both families for a formal arbitration so that both parties can air their grievances to pave the way for differences to be ironed out.

You may also complain to your pastor to act in concert with the family head to make the summons a more effective one.