I’m pregnant and unhappy

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a married woman with a three-year-old child, and expecting another baby soon. But instead of feeling excited, I am worried.

My mother passed away just three weeks before I had my first child. I had no one to help me. Luckily, my sister-in-law came to stay with me. But it’s rather unfortunate — she does not do any of the house chores or assist in taking care of the baby.

Even when I was in excruciating pain after delivery, I had to do everything in the house by myself. I have complained many times to my husband, but it seems he does not care.

I want his sister to leave. I don’t want to go through stress and disrespect in my own matrimonial home. So how do I tell him clearly but respectfully that I don’t want his sister in my house?

Ruthline, Accra

Dear Ruthline,

I understand how stressful and exhausting it can be when you do not get any support system after childbirth. Postpartum depression sets in easily, making many women lose their self-esteem.

You have already shown strength by planning ahead to do all things by yourself. Now, it is time to protect your peace.

I suggest that you remind him gently of how things are going, and how it affected you emotionally and physically. Let him know you are not rejecting his family, but asking for space to rest and bond with your baby.

On the other hand, I don’t understand why your sister-in-law is refusing to assist you.

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