I am not interested in her

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am 30 years and she is 26 years. We are in the same training college. I met this lady who looks exactly like my sister two years ago.

I approached and informed her about her resemblance to my late sister. I told her of my willingness to take her as a sister and she accepted.

This lady is financially sound, therefore, all the financial diffi­culties that I faced during the ini­tial stages in the training college were catered for by her.

I sometimes take her home and all my siblings liked her.

I have a feeling that the inter­est the lady has developed in me is beyond the ‘brother and sister.’

Sometimes, she mentions marriage to me but I don’t take it seriously. Recently, she brought the issue of marriage and I told her point blank that it would not be possible.

The next morning I heard she had been taken to the hospital. She was still unconscious when I visited her at the hospital.

I told my mother about the is­sue and said, she would be happy to have her home.

Obaa, I have this lady at heart as a sister and I don’t have any feelings for her as a partner. Now considering the situation, I am very confused and don’t know what to do.

Duker, Amasaman.

Dear Duker,

IN your letter, you did not state what made this girl unconscious. Did she fall into coma due to broken- heart?

If so, you may be able to help in her recovery.

The problem comes from you in a way. When she was spending on you, you should have known that she was not doing it out of mere sisterly love.

She is ill and you must co-op­erate to get her back to normal health. She would need your attention and care in order to recover. By then, she will be able to cope with the fact that things are not what she expected to be. First things first, help her recover fully and candidly exude all your feelings to her.