Good reasons for getting married – Part 2

 3. Marry because you are mature and ready for it in all ways: spiritual, physical, emo­tional, financial, and psychological.

You must understand the need to be ready and mature for marriage. Marriage is a crucial decision that requires careful consideration and preparation. Spiritual maturity means a strong faith and shared beliefs with your partner (Colossians 3:14).

Being physically mature has to do with coming of age, taking care of your body, and being able to support your partner. Emotional maturity im­plies you can manage your emotions and communicate well (Proverbs 15:1).

Financial maturity means being able to provide for your partner and home. It also means being financially stable (Proverbs 21:5). Whereas psy­chological maturity is about knowing yourself and handling life’s challeng­es (Romans 12:2).

All these factors help you be ready for marriage. They also help you build a strong, lasting relation­ship with your spouse.

The verses above show that a strong relationship with God, self-care, communication, financial re­sponsibility, and personal growth are key to being ready for marriage.

4. Marry to spiritually and physically help each other.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman who choose to share their lives together. Spirituality and physical wellbeing are both essential components of a healthy relationship. Couples can enjoy supporting each other spiritual­ly and physically. Here are some ways to achieve this.

Spiritual help:

a. Share your spiritual beliefs and practices with each other.

b. Attend church services or religious events together.

c. Pray together.

d. Discuss spiritual teachings and how they apply to your relation­ship.

e. Encourage each other to live a life of kindness, compassion, and service.

Physical help:

a. Exercise together.

b. Cook healthy meals and eat together.

c. Take care of each other’s physical needs.

d. Support each other during illnesses.

e. Sleep well and create a healthy sleep routine.

By supporting each other, couples can grow and strengthen their bond in all aspects of life.

5. Marry based on your God-given destiny and assignment in life.

Many believe that everyone has a unique, God-given destiny. It can guide decisions, including whom to marry. Some believe that God has a specific person for each individual. Others believe that God directs and helps them choose wisely.

Ask your marriage counsellor this: Does God have a specific person for me to marry, or can I marry anyone?

Does God have a specific per­son for me to marry, or can I marry anyone?

Marry based on a combina­tion of reasons. These include com­patibility, love, respect, and shared faith, values, and goals. Also, commit to supporting and caring for each other. It can help to seek advice from a trusted marriage counsellor, family members, or spiritual leaders. Also, reflect on your priorities and dreams before deciding.

Marriage can bring you and your partner closer together. You will share the same values and goals for your future. It can help you solidify your relationship and bring a sense of unity.

6. Marry for a lifelong commit­ment and dedication.

Marriage is a public declaration of commitment and dedication to each other. It shows that you are serious about your relationship and willing to put in the effort to make it work. Many marry to show their commit­ment and dedication to building a life together.

Marriage can provide a legal and social framework for you and your spouse to share your lives, support each other, and celebrate your suc­cesses. It can also create a sense of stability and security for both of you and any potential children you may have.

Finally, the choice to marry is per­sonal and it should be based on your understanding of marriage and your needs, goals, and values.

To be continued …

Source: Excerpts from ‘Pre­paring for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage’ Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Psychotherapist, Lecturer, and Marriage Therapist). https://counselorprinceass.wixsite. com/edu-counseling-psych

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