Women with Breast Cancer Refuse Surgery …for Fear of Losing Romantic Relationship

A lecturer at the School of Nursing and Midwifery, University of Ghana, Dr Merri Iddrisu, has revealed that many women hesitate to undergo surgery for breast cancer because of the fear that the removal of one or both breasts may alter their romantic relationships and affect how their partners perceive them.

However, she said the condition, though a difficult one, must not end one’s romantic relationship and urged men to support women in this regard.

“Love does not end when the breast is gone. With understanding and support, couples can build an even stronger bond,” she emphasised.

She made the disclosure in an interview with The Spectator on the sidelines of the 25th anniversary annual symposium of the College of Health Sciences (CHS), held at the West African Genetic Medicine Centre (WAGMC), University of Ghana, Legon.

It was organised on the theme: “From Genes to Generations: Family Heredity and Breast Cancer Risk.”

Dr Iddrisu explained that the breast is not just a biological feature but a symbol of femininity, intimacy, and confidence — elements that shape a woman’s sense of self within her marriage.

“When a woman loses her breast, she is not only fighting cancer but also dealing with the emotional pain of feeling incomplete or undesirable. Many fear their husbands will no longer see them attractive,” she elaborated.

She noted that some women struggle with self-image and intimacy after mastectomy, leading to strained relationships and emotional withdrawal.

“If the husband still finds his wife beautiful, even with scars, and continues to show affection, the woman becomes stronger emotionally. But when the husband distances himself, it deepens her pain,” she added.

On that note, the expert stressed the need for men to be actively involved in their wives’ treatment journey, as emotional and psychological support from partners significantly impacts recovery.

“When a woman is diagnosed, we must treat not just the woman but the entire family, which includes the husband, children, and even colleagues. The husband especially needs guidance to understand the physical and emotional effects of treatment,” she explained.

Moreover, she encouraged couples to explore breast reconstruction or prosthetic options if needed, saying such steps can help restore confidence and intimacy.

According to her, open communication, acceptance, and counselling can help couples overcome the emotional hurdles that come with breast cancer treatment.

By Jemima Esinam Kuatsinu & Theresa Dzifa Tsetse

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