Relationship
…tips on coping with step parents
1. Communicate your expectations
Step-parent(s) have a ‘job’ in the family and in the life of their children. They will not have the same role as biological parents, but they will still be around.
As a stepparent, tell the children what you want them to do for you, and what you do not want them to do.
Do not approach them intending to tell them how they have upset you, but to establish a line of communication
2. Try to be impartial
When conflicts arise, children are more likely to agree with their biological parents than their stepparents. Recognise this and try to view her words and actions without factoring in your relationship with her.
She will appreciate you siding with her on an issue even though you may not have come to appreciate her yet.
3. Recognise the step parent’s challenges
A child may not like that their parent getting remarried, but the stepparent has a task of winning over the whole family. Give him time to get used to being around new children. Being understanding with him should help reduce the amount he gets frustrated with their new family.
4. Let your stepparent know if you are uncomfortable
It is common for relationships between a stepparent and a stepchild to suffer from gender confusion. For example, a stepfather may be confused about whether it is appropriate to hug a stepdaughter the same way as a biological daughter. If he is being too physically affectionate for your comfort, let him know.
5. Let your biological parent(s) help
If you are less laid-back than your siblings, you may have trouble adjusting to the new stepparent. Let your parents know that you want the family to be happy, but want them to help you adjust. Communicating that you want to do your best to get to know your stepparent will improve your relationship with your biological and stepparents.
6. Do not expect an overnight friendship
You will not immediately become close with a stepparent, and that is okay. In fact, his or her relationship with you will never be the same as with your biological parents. If a stepparent is coming on too strong, let him know you just want to take it easy for a while. There is nothing wrong with letting a relationship develop naturally over time
Source: wikihow.life.com