Should I wait for him

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I have been in a rela­tionship with a guy for the past two years and the only relative he introduced me to, was his uncle.

A month to our wedding, I realised our communication style began to go sour as we didn’t talk like we used to. Three days to our wedding, I didn’t hear from him and all the communication channels I tried, proved futile. There­fore, I cancelled the marriage and till date i have not heard from him.

Months later, I chanced upon him and his family (wife and children) at the mall. He begged me not to create a scene, therefore we agreed to meet later that evening.

When we met, he con­fessed that I was the one whom he dearly loved how­ever, he was with the woman for some benefits. Thus, he would divorce her after claiming the benefits.

Please do you think I should wait for him?

Abena Tetteh,

Prampram.

Dear Abena,

Marriage is principally based on trust, mutual love and tolerance, therefore, if these points are miss­ing, those involved in the marriage are bound to face challenges.

Thank God that you have identified the true nature of this false lover.

It is not true that he will marry you when he gets the benefits he is looking for.

Do not wait for him be­cause it presupposes that he will abandon you in the fu­ture if another lover promises him attractive benefits. Keep in mind that he has children.

In your next relation­ship, try to do detailed back­ground checks on the person before you commit yourself fully.