Should I let him go?

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a woman in my mid-30s. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 14 years.

We have built a strong bond over the years, and despite everything, I still love him deeply.

However, our relationship hasn’t been perfect. Throughout the years, we have decided to try as much as possible to make it work.

A few months ago, he travelled to the Dubai. He recently confessed something that has completely surprised me.

He informed me that he had mistakenly gotten another woman pregnant. Despite everything, he wants to marry me and is making plans for me to join him abroad so we can settle down.

The situation has become even more complicated because the woman she has impregnated is also insisting she should marry her.

Yet he keeps assuring me that I am the woman he truly needs to spend his life with.

Parts of me wants to walk away after all the betrayals. Another part of me feels 14 years is hard work for me to let go. I can’t stop wondering if there are more of secrets he is hiding.

Baaba, Sunyani.

Dear Baaba,

If you have been with a man for 14 years and he has impregnated another woman, the decision about whether to let him go depends on more than just the pregnancy. Is your boyfriend remorseful of what he has taken you through?

A pregnancy creates a lifelong connection between him and the other woman because they will communicate for the sake of the child.

After 14 years, you deserve clarity and commitment. It may be worth asking whether staying is serving your happiness and self –respect.

Do not focus only on the fact that he impregnated another woman, but on what his actions over the years over the kind of partner he has been.